We went through a painful breakup and its just still fresh and everyone time he contacts me for something I am there for him as a friend, we are not intimate at all, but it bothers me a lot, coz i feel stupid though he is the one who hurt me coz of different women and then I broke up with him coz I found out , but I still care for him and also we were together for 4 years and he does not have family locally, and they all live far away...he has a great heart though, but I just cannot deal with me even being there for him..I already said Yes and then emailed him that I just cant do it.
2006-08-25 19:29:58 · 16 answers · asked by Msfunloving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You only need to be there for him if you want to do it. The fact that you said you would means that you are not keeping your word. Frankly, if you can keep him as a friend it says a lot for your character. It also could become one of the most important relationships in your life. You have to do what is best for you.
2006-08-25 19:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if I were you, I wouldn't. While you may want to remain friends, it sounds like you broke up fairly recently. You are both trying to heal, and right now wouldn't be a good time to get too close to him, even though you would be supporting him. While he may have been cheating on you, most men won't stay with a woman for longer than a year if there is nothing to it. So, more than likely, he still has wide open emotional wounds as well. And seeing as you seem to want to move beyond that, and beyond your past with him, it would be a bad idea- I'm speaking from personal experience on this. However, in the end it is up to you- it just doesn't seem very adviseable to me.
2006-08-26 02:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by aht12086 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know even if you broke up as painful as it may have been and still is- he didn't ask any other woman to go with him he asked you. This tells you he turns to you when in genuine need or when worried about something ( even if he had made stupid mistakes). He is looking for you to give him strength and since no family is near by him, I think you should go. It could have been vice versa- you wanting him by your side- would you have like it if he had refused? If there is still time you should go. Don't feel stupid about it, any act of kindness is always looked upon as admirable. I don't think you will regret it if you went. Best of Luck!
2006-08-26 02:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already said no, so why are you asking us? Keep being wishy washy and he'll continue to take you for granted and use you. He doesn't have family locally, boo hoo. Does he have any friends? Too bad. Send him a box of peanut brittle and a card that says enjoy after your surgery!
2006-08-26 02:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you be there tomorrow a.m.? NO. When you break up with someone-----that means no contact, it doesn't mean being there for him as a "friend." You wouldn't have broken up if he'd been a friend. "if he has such a "great heart" why did u break up with him. You said, "he hurt me coz of different women." And yet your still willing to be there for him as a "friend." ???
2006-08-26 02:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you already emailed that you cant go what are you worried about? It doesnt sound like you want to be there, then why force yourself? Try move on, it will be really hard but its not something to waste a lot of time on.
2006-08-26 02:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldnt go with him if you are not planning to have further relationship with him. Let him know that is DONE. You two can still be friends but always asking you to acompany him is a little over the your responsiblity.
2006-08-26 02:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dogs Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dear you are wasting your time
in my views dont even talk to him
u said u had a painful braekup and if u had it then just simply forget him i know its tough but make urself busy
love is all about trust care and sacrifice and love always makes u stronger ,he wasn't there vn u needed him and we won't b even in the future, so y r u bcoming fool,
relationships are meant to give support and if he dint gave it to you then tthrow him out of ur life and one thing more love can never change into frnship , stop misleading urself,don't go there one thing more
Start loving urself bcz u r imprtnt .....
dnt go, stop meeting
and be as wat ur name suggest
enjoy and have fun
blv me -there's sm1 for you who'll be better then him in all aspects...gdluck
tkcr
bye
2006-08-26 03:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by its me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go .. Stop this relation , what was splendor in the grass can not return but you can find it in another place. Leave him, do not look back and move forward
2006-08-26 02:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. well just go for him.. show him that your a true friend.. maybe take a think about it, if this was you, he would come still just to see you..
make him happy that you would still se him even your not dating at all.. is friendship thats matter most.
2006-08-26 02:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋