ok, so I am starting a new a brand new school in a couple of days. I dont know a single person at this school. Im so nervous! Ive nerver has to do this before!!! so my question is how do I become friends with people? im starting as a sophmore so everybody my age has known eachother for atleast a year. i need to know everything!! where do i sit in the cafeteria on the first day? can i just go up and sit with some people i dont know or would that just be too awkward? I am not that shy of a person especially around friends but for some reason i am completely dreading this. Im just not that comfortable with walking up to a group of complete strangers and trying to talk to them. any suggestions of good topics to bring up that would be good ice breakers? I know i should join a club to meet people with the same interests but this school really doesnt have many clubs. Has anyone else been in this situation and what did you do?? i am desperate for help. sorry this is long.
2006-08-25 19:07:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im just the person to help u...i am going to be a senior and by the time i graduate, i will have attended four high schools, one for each year...it sucks....i met knew ppl each year....
usually when there is someone new, they will come to u...where to sit...go where u feel comfortable or if there is someone u meet in class follow them around for the day and hopefully u will become friends w/ them and u can sit w/ them...it can be hard b/c like u said, ppl already have friends so they really dont want to add someone to their group...this may seem lame but look for someone quiet to talk to, someone alone...and be friends w/ them...it may be hard for u if this is ur first time...i had time to prepare...i moved lots of times before it got to hs...just be urself though...everything will be fine...=)
2006-08-25 19:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by ξℓ Çђαηφσ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pink,
You should learn to enjoy such moments. You have got a lot to share with others as they all know each other and do not know you at all. Arouse their curiosity and make them take interest in you. For example, you could sport a lovely dress or a bag or a tie etc which will elicit conversation. Shed your inhibitions and flash a smile; atleast a few will reciprocate.
2006-08-26 02:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by indian b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I joined color guard, it was almost like going to a new school b/c the band community was like its own little community, therefore I kind of know how you feel. I had to make new friends w/in the "community" b/c I spent so much time with them. Basically all you have to do is talk to a few people in your classes, befriend them, and hopefully one of them will have your lunch and invite you to sit at their table. I know at my school, all the kids flock around the new students, so you should find friends in no time! : )
2006-08-26 02:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by happy311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i actually know how u feel. ive changed schools three times in the past 5 years. and the first time i was like "**** wat am i doin here" but then i tried talkn to them about little stuff like" wats the next class?" "do u know any good stores around here?" and so on. and rite now i have no problem with it. u should also try being 1 with every1. like the school im in rite i now is the wost punk school in the area and in the third month im like the worst punk in my grade and have tons of friends of both sex. well just wanned to say ive been there and know how u feel and good luck.
2006-08-26 02:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by blonde d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi pink,
I tell you about what happened to me and some facts about my younger brother......I really hope it helps.
I used to go to this great college.....but unfortunately I failed(not that i'm a bad student) and I had to drop a year.As i lost a year in the college ....all my batchmates and friends moved one year ahead of me. I had only one option left to sit at home for a year and then comeback and study with a new batch of students.....this case is similar to yours as the students i had to study with, already knew each other and were friends. And I knew it would be tough to make friends with those who already had their respective friends circles. I took the coward's way out....I decided that i would leave that college to go to a new one.
I had this option but as you are in school you dont have this option.So i'll tell you about my younger cousin brother....his father has job that gets him transferred to different cities......till now he has 5-6 school changes.....as soon as he got adjusted to one school he had to move on to another one.....and face the same problem as you are facing....but he is doing it...isnt he....you be brave and take it as it comes. My bro,after every school change ....used to come back home and cry that everyone is behaving strangely to him and not helping him......this happens as most dont make friends with newer students but there is always a group of exceptions.....who make friends with newer students.....thats your gateway.
Now if you ask the teacher....as my bro did....the teacher said it will take about 1-2 months to completely mix with the old students...till then you have to concentrate on your studies to keep your mind diverted from the fact that you dont have many friends.....
I know its awkward to directly start talking to strangers....so just sit next to them....and let them talk to you first.....then you talk and make friends with them.....sooner or later they will surely talk to you...they are humans after all.
2006-08-26 02:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Moy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go to any group or anything.. introduce yourself to the next person you sit. talk and be nice. He or She will introduce you to others soon enough.
2006-08-26 02:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by usman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be outgoing and witty and funny and nice and just down-to earth and with that attitude you'll make friends in a flash!
2006-08-26 02:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be ur usual self...
you can approach ppl by saying...hey you have an interesting name..what does it mean etc or something nice.
or asking whats the neighbourhood is like if u r new to the town...
all the best.
2006-08-26 02:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just introduce yourself to one person at a time and create your own group of friends, be yourself, and be confident with yourself peoplee look up to peopl who feel confident with themselves, they can smell fear so don't act scared
2006-08-26 02:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by creativebeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you, people liked you before and they will again, who likes a phony.
2006-08-26 02:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by ricky_deal2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋