so I was on the missouri sexual offenders list to see if it said my dad still lived at my house, and I found my friends dad on there for 9 counts of sexual assult.
Ive only met his dad once, and that was for like a second, before I left.
Nick really looks up to his dad, and has been trying for like a month now for us to all do something (weird I know...but nicks a weird kid.)
Ive been so busy, with school starting up and everything I havent had time, and now Im obviously not going to hang out with his dad, but I dont want nick to know I know.
Hell be so upset. I know I would be If my friends found out about my dad.
Hell be really dissapointed if I dont meet his dad though :[
what should I do??
I mean, if we go somewhere public would it really be that risky?
2006-08-25 19:03:12 · 6 answers · asked by iloveyouthismuchok 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay,
1. I said Id met him for like one second. thats not enough time to form an opinion and 2, there might be 1 in a trillion sex offenders who actually change.
it just dosent happen.
2006-08-26 06:08:12 · update #1
If you someday marry your friend, you're likely to meet the dad at some point. I thought about this, and here's what I've come up with:
1. Always talk about the things that are important to you about a person's character. Do this without alluding to his dad. Get his opinions that way and share yours. It's alright to say you want nothing to do with a sex offender. You shouldn't have to accept it just because there is a tiny chance he might have changed.
2. Try to find out why Nick looks up to his dad so much. You can do this by discussing role models and what makes a good role model.
I know it sounds like a mind game, but sometimes it helps give some insight into the character of a friend and maybe you can help him too. It sounds like you might be more sensitive about considering why you were online in the first place. Nick has a right to know you're not okay with it and you have that right to tell him.
2006-08-26 06:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and meet his dad. But dont get to close, and I wouldnt touch him. That would make me want to shower for weeks. Anyways, just meet in a public place, like say a restraunt or a mall. He would get caught if he tried to do anything in a mall.
2006-08-26 02:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua's True Love :] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your friend why you don't want to meet his dad. He has enough on his mind. Spare his feelings and just find other excuses for not getting together. You can just say, "I'd rather hang out with just you, without any parents joining us."
2006-08-26 02:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by MailorderMaven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because someone does something bad once , or at some point in there lives, does not mean that they will always do the same things , people do change,, even sex offenders, ,, they can and do learn from ther mistakes, , ,,, and try not being so full of urself , just because he is a sex offender, does not mean he wants u ,, sex offenders have sexual preferences too , some like boys some like girls, some like teens, black white, asian,, etc,, try giving the man a chance, ,, preferably in public, ,, if he was alright in your mind before u knew about his past , why should that change ur opinion of him now,,
2006-08-26 10:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
stay away from his dad tell him you like him but you feel to awkward to meet his dad
2006-08-26 02:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by creativebeloved 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about his dad then be like no offense but yesterday (or whatever day) i was in the ... and i saw.... i'm so sorry its just that i'm scared
2006-08-26 02:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋