Gay men and women...?

Question

Is it possible for you to fall in love with the opposite sex?

I am bi and I just don't see the point in limiting yourself. Yes, you will probably always have feelings for the same sex I know this. But that doesn't mean that people that are hetero or homo won't ever have attractions to other people as well. What's your take on this. What if love just came up and slapped you in the face with someone from the opposite sex, what would you do? Would you be happy?

whoa - a whore? Excuse me, I believe it is accepting the fact that love is love and has no limitations on who I will be with the rest of my life because I do not know, how do you know? A whore I am not. Just open-minded and have a lot of love.

Answer 1

Uh, it will never happen. I'm not into that type of behavior.

Answer 2

I am not gay/lesbian; at least not strongly enough to identify that way. However, w/that disclaimer,...

I would like to answer part of your statement/question: " I just don't see the point in limiting yourself".

Perhaps you don't see the point in 'limiting' because you are not limited, as you are bi; and the type of bi person who is very firmly for either. Would you ask the same question of a hetero person; why do they limit themselves (you didn't do so explicitly, BTW)? Gay or lesbian people limit their sexual partners because it's what turns them on sexually. They focus themselves because it isn't a limit, it's a pleasure. It works for them.

Also, I suggest you read up on Kinsey and the scale. While there may be people at the poles, almost everyone is some level of in-between. Does that mean they identify as 'bi' and are 'bi'? No. Because both it's better for them to identify as gay or lesbian or hetero, and because our society does its best to enforce a bi-sexed, bi-gendered world. I think our society (well, at least U.S. society) says we are supposed to be male/masculine or female/feminine, same-sexual (gay/lesbian) or hetero-sexual, and the in-between is too scary for most people.

Finally, for me,... love is love. If I fell in love w/someone of the same gender or sex or whatever... it might be a little hard on me, and I also wouldn't turn down the love (theoretically speaking, of course, as I have a partner I love and have no intention of chasing anyone else that I might or even do love; I made a commitment...)

[p.s.: To the person who implied bi's are 'whores'... I disagree, it was insensitive in my mind; and a thumbs-down vote works if you can do so. :)]

Answer 3

I know a lot of people who dislike bi-sexuals. And I think its not fair. I just dont understand how we can be so "open" to eachother liking the same-sex [like thats not already taboo] then turn back around and find someone else to hate. Yes, I think that if the right man, came into my life at the right time, I might have to delare myself bi. and be happy and in love. Its just not fair to limit myself and deny myself my perfect counterpart..just because he's a man..and I'm a lesbian. We all say that we "cant help that we like the same sex"...but then want to be mad, when someone is free, and acknowledges that he/she is attracted to both.
But I mean, thats the world. Deep down inside, we dont want anyone to be happier than we are.

Answer 4

Your scenario clearly demonstrates the difference between a heterosexual, homosexual and someone that is bi.
As a lesbian, I have male friends, I know an attractive male when I see one, and I couldn't be a fulfilled person if I didn't like men but I am not sexually aroused by them, my soul is not attracted to and bonded to their souls and my intellectual self is not drawn to the male brain. So while I can have great male friends I could not fall in love with one and I wouldn't want to waste my life or any mans life by pretending otherwise.
Someone that is heterosexual would not find these same things with someone of their own gender.
And a bisexual person truly finds both genders to fit all of these categories for them.

Answer 5

Could I have love for a woman - yes. Could I fall IN love with a woman - No. I think it boils down to who we are attracted to. As I gay man I do not see how I would allow myself to fall in love with a woman as I am not sexually attracted to them. You are right, it doesn't mean that I could never be attracted or love someone of the opposite sex... but there are different levels of love, and again, I am not sure that I would ever fall IN love with a woman at this point in my life.

Answer 6

I'm bi also so I feel the same way you do. If I fell in love with someone of the same sex or opposite sex, I'd still be happy. I'd try to make it last as long as I could.

Answer 7

I don't know about falling in love... I do find a member of the opposite sex attractive, every once in a while. That doesn't mean I am/would fall in love with them, or that the idea of having sex with them is appealing.

Answer 8

Not for me.

Yes, I'll admit I'm sexually attracted to both men and women, but I have never and don't think I could ever fall "in love" with a man.
I was married to man whom I didn't love, I tried, really I tried, but I never loved him as a partner in life. It was more like a good friend who I happened to be having sex with.

All those whom I have actually been 'in love' with, have always been other women.

Answer 9

I'm bi too, so I just love who I love.

And ignore the ignorant things anyone said about bisexual people, they are just uneducated. I'll link a site about bisexual myths from the Human Rights Campaign so they can try to learn something.

Answer 10

You are too silly. People who are gay are not like you - Bisexual. Therefore they would not fall in love with someone of the opposite sex and in conclusion they are not "limiting" themselves. What are you like 12 years old??

Answer 11

i go out with more bi guys than gay guys because there more open and less girly. but you are right people shouldnt keep themselves so closed into one type of anything. you cant express it in words though. you either understand or you dont :[