My bf and I haven't been going out too long. We had an amazing relationship, he talked about marrying me, he says im his first love... He's a great guy, but lately he's been acting a little weird. He got a full time job, and we hardly see or talk to each other now, he sleeps a lot now... should I be worried, or just leave it alone hoping it'll get better. when I try to talk about it, he says it's just me, and he reassures me he loves me. I love him deeply, and believe him, but i know it's never to good to trust 100%
2006-08-25 17:42:43 · 15 answers · asked by Faby'07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately, full time jobs take a big chunk out of your day. My husband leaves for work at 4am, he gets home at 5pm and is asleep around 8pm. We get three hours at night to have dinner and talk, but then we always have the weekends where we make sure one day we spend together doing something fun.
Sometimes you have to make compromises. If he hadn't been working full time before, his sleeping could just be because he's not used to the work schedule and it could take time to adjust.
As you aren't married, you will have less time together than a married couple would. Assuming you live in separate places.
It sounds like you don't work full time and have a lot of time to kill that you used to spend together. Find something to fill your time, you can't be dependent on him to entertain you.
2006-08-25 17:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you've been going out too long its sounds as though you are hoping for it to be done and over with! I've learned from experience that you should never trust too much. I suggest you do something sweet like send a 'mens flower arrangment' or plant to his work with a love note attached. That way if there's anything going on with him at work it will be more likely to stop or he will come clean with you if there's someone else! Another big indicator that there's something fishy going on is he doesn't answer your calls when he's away from you!!!! Keep your eyes and ears open...don't be the victim of a cheater!
2006-08-26 00:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he has a full time job now, then he has real responsibilities and needs to accept those. Maybe he is just plain tired while his body adjusts the new routine of being a grown-up responsible person.
Leave it alone. Give him some space. Let him know that you are waiting for a while until he gets settled into the new routine.
2006-08-26 00:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bug him, and allow him to have some space for a while. Continue to provide opportunities for the two of you to be together, and try not to take it personally if he doesn't accept.
It's not just you...some guys need more space than others. Maybe he needs to know that you will give him the space he needs.
2006-08-26 00:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe the reason he sleeps a lot is he is tried. maybe he is trying to save up money so you can get married. Maybe he isn't like some guys, he wants ya'll to have a future and you can't have that without money.
2006-08-26 00:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by hotmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys are going to be married, then maybe he wants to save up for something special. And that aint going to happen if he doesnt work. Are you guys trying to save up for a house? car?....if he says he love you, then he does. When he starts avoiding you then theres a problem....
2006-08-26 00:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and space but let him know that it's only for a short period of time.
2006-08-26 00:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by steelerguy92868 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to be your boyfriend... coz my girlfriend does the same thing to me and i'm worried. We'd be quite compatible together
2006-08-26 00:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Pierre . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your head and not your heart. You deserve to be treated better. There are many other guys out there to choose from.
2006-08-26 00:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by :Phil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask him his problem and try to understand him first, if u cannot cooperate with him, leave him at the earliest and find some one
2006-08-26 00:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by rosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋