We live in a relatively small town. A girl that I work with has a "cheating husband". He has been caught before and she always takes him back. He is doing it again - in fact, I don't think he ever stopped seeing his "girlfriend". Should I tell her? Or should I have someone let her know?
2006-08-25 17:12:30 · 37 answers · asked by amy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Off course you should if you are sure about it. Telling a truth can save her lot of emotional upheavel later
2006-08-25 17:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is a small town,for sure she already knows. What you can do is go with her to a cafeteria to drink something(tea,coffee,etc) and talk with her asking: how are you, how is the marriage going,are you thinking is your husband maybe cheating you one day, or he is a good man? You need to ask her questions about,with polite and very careful. If she react very strong and cool,then you can tell her the true.If her reaction is with anger,upset,depression and not stable,then you can not tell her. Some people when you tell something like cheating stuff,OH man,they react crazy, and saying them about the cheating will destroy the marriage. Testing first your friend,with very polite questions about the subject,and you will see if she is ready to face cheating and solve the problem in a decent way.Good luck.
2006-08-25 17:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to make a subtle hint to her. Ask her if your spouse was cheating would you want your friends to tell you?
I have a friend, that told me she didn't want to know if her husband was cheating on her. Her reason was because, "If I don't know, it won't hurt me."
I thought, OMG! I would definitely want to know. So u might want to ask her first.
She might be upset with you at first, but she'll get over it and realize what a good friend you are! I would be glad to have a friend like that!
2006-08-25 17:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by KD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you are willing to loose her friendship or to be called a liar. i still think you should tell her- but dont pry and ask her lots of questions....just say i have some information that i must tell you as your friend and you can do with it what you will. just remember she took him back before and probally will this time to and the hubby will convince her that you are the bad guy.
just tell her what you know and then let it go.
2006-08-25 17:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-08-25 17:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by sensfantodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately tell her. Make sure you state that you care about her and that she deserves a man that loves her and only her. Nobody deserves to be cheated on and it'd be easier to go through this with her girlfriend by her side. (hint, hint)
2006-08-25 17:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Katie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just stated that she keeps taking him back, so whats the point in you wasting your oxygen by telling her. Let her wake up and smell the coffee on her own..
2006-08-25 17:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by NIKFAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the point of telling her. She'll get up-set and take him back. He won't stop because he knows she'll take him back. Just keep it to yourself. It's no fun being in the middle of that kind of mess.
2006-08-25 17:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my ex was cheating on me no one told me. It went on for two long years and I didn't know it. I wish someone had told me so I could have done something about it sooner.
2006-08-25 17:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, it will only hurt her more to know someone she trusted knew and said nothing, what her husband is doing will hurt her regardless of who or when it is revealed.
2006-08-25 17:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by plainwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋