Will the over-the-counter release of Plan B siginficantly decrease my chances of finding an STD-free husband?

Question

The over-the-counter release of the morning after pill can only mean STDs will skyrocket. The same thing happened when they released them in England, why wouldn't the results be any different here? I am EXTREMELY worried about this. I want to be able to find an clean man, I don't think this is a lot to ask. I'm only 20 and a college sophomore, so I still have a few years yet anyway until I'd even think about getting married but I just hope that the day when my future guy proposes to me, I'll ask him "Are you clean?" and the response will be yes. I know STD rates are different in certain regions- I'm from WI if that helps (but not from a big city like Milwaukee). Also, I'm 100% clean (I don't need any testing because have no desire to give my virginity to anyone that's not my husband), but my worry is will he be infected?

I mean, will men without STDs become a minority.

Answer 1

It's better than being with a diabetic fatty. Talk about future medical bills. Woweee!

Answer 2

I think you are confusing cause and effect. Also are you sure that the presence of Plan B medication was solely responsible for whatever increase of STDs occurred? There could a number of other factors including reduced use of condoms and safe sex practices. There's also the possibility of demographic shifts resulting in naive populations being exposed.

Plan B is not designed as a primary means of birth control. It is supposed to be used only for emergencies when, say, a condom breaks and the man ejaculates. I would really hope that very few women actually need the Plan B medications but I'm glad that they're available.

I suspect that the availability of Plan B will NOT change most people's behavior towards sex. Since it's to be used as an emergency measure by adults(!), these adults have already decided that they are going to have intercourse. That being said, they should practice safer sex which, when followed properly, has a very good chance of preventing infection in either direction.

When you find that special someone (and I hope you do), go down to the local health clinic or your family doctor's office and both of you get tested before marriage. This way, both of you can be assured that you're starting the marriage without any fears of STDs. Oh, wait a minute. You said you don't need any testing because you're a virgin (now). Why not do it to reassure your partner? After all, you're planning on asking him about his past behavior through the question "Are you clean?" Shouldn't he have the ability to ask you the same question and be able to prove it via a health test?

Answer 3

Good luck in your quest. The simple facts are, that some STDs, especially HIV can be carried by any body fluid. Now there are those that will denigh this but ask you physician or dentist why they all wear gloves, aprons and sometimes facemasks while performing on people. Yes, saliva can carry aids as does blood.
Testing will help but the results are only up until the day of the test, results sometimes taking 2 weeks. Be caution, don't believe everything you're told, requires a test for a serious candidate - by the way, people can be virgins and still have STD. Remember, any body fluid, many people contacted aids years ago through blood transfusions! Good luck.

Answer 4

You are putting a big cart before a horse that is locked in the barn in another state! You don't have a fiance yet so why worry?
When you do, simply ask that he take a screening test for STD's at your local board of health. It is a reasonable request in this day and age and he will be more than happy to do it if he is in love with you and wants to ease your mind. Tell him you are a virgin, but you'll take one too. Just be aware that HIV can lay dormant and not show positive on a test for 7 to 10 years!
Hope you like long engagements. Happy hunting!

Answer 5

All you have to do is find a guy who is like you when it comes to sex ( find a virgin ) stick to your guns, you know what you want in a man. don't settle for anything less then the right man. remember guys are a dime a dozen and men are the cream at the tip top. follow you brain not your heart listen to your guts they will tell you when your off track. and know that just because a guys says "I love you" don't mean that he respects you. and if a guy asks you to move in with him, that means he thinks your a whore and wants it for free. run for the hills...... a man will hold you up on a pedestal and respect you as his wife to be and the future mother of his 37 kids. he will provide for your family and protect your family and you had better treat him like a man and never let him down in bed ( always be there to sooth his needs ) this is how a man knows he is loved by his woman, and this is how a woman shows her man that he is loved and desired, the wife sets the tone in the home so be the woman he wants to come home to every night and you will be the happiest wiffy you will know. your man will lay down his life for you and his kids if you never let him feel undesired, or unappreciated, or neglected. that would be abuse and then he may just stop coming home. good luck, and be the woman for your man when it is time.

Answer 6

If you're planning to stay a virgin until marriage you have nothing to worry about because when you find the right guy he'll have to problem with getting tested. you could both go to get tested just to show good will. your health should always be your priority and if he really cares for you and has nothing to hide that should not be a problem, especially since some STDs are not remedied with a shot but are reoccurring outbreaks, not to mention the BIG ONE - AIDS.

Answer 7

I'll add to your fears, my dear, most STDs cannot be detected in the male, and there are some freaky ones, that don't get a lot of press...I would have to suggest that this is the number one reason in support of young marriage...if people get married young and stay true to each other before they can develop a taste for promiscuity it would sure be better to have two marriages or even three in your life than to have a dozen partners...and they have two friends and they have two friends...

Answer 8

Any man can carry an std, your safest plan is stay safe before you enter the relationship ask the man if he wouldn't mind being fully checked before you two are intimate but also be sure to keep you self up to stage with a yearly std check of your own.

Answer 9

Birth control options do not cause STDs. People need to be responsible and protect themselves from diseases exactly the same way they did before one additional birth control option became available. I've been on the Pill for a loooong time but the fact that I'm protected from pregnancy didn't affect my insistence on using condoms.

Answer 10

you make a good point, i think anyway, however i dissaprove of the morning after pill, and abortion. i think the morning after can only potentialy be justified in a rape, where the woman did not have a choice. however when you make that choice( should i have sex? if so, should i use protection? ect) that choice is made BEFORE it happens NOT after. if you would just "CHOSE" not to do it...you wouldnt have to worry about "plan B". MY "plan B" is...oops, i decided to play a risky game (sex, or unprotected sex)i got pregnant because of the choice or choices i made, now i need to acomodate a child. its called accepting concequences to your actions, not killing innocence because i messed up. the morning after pill, just sends the message that this mentality and way of thinking is okay, its not.
your question touches on a different side of it, but for the same reasons...your thinking that girls are going to be less concerened about protection because now they have other options, and the percentage of men that will insist on protection is not that high...hence infecting more men...yes, i believe it will become harder to find a clean man (or woman) in the neer future, which is just sad. but its not that hard to have him tested before you have sex with him. i hope you find a man that shares your values, and is waiting for his wife. my sister just got married to her bf of about 8 years, shes 22, they both waited for marriage.