suspicous mom, tottaly annoying!!!!?

Question

im 12, 7th gradde, and in 5the grade, eraly 6th grade, my mom would let me go to the movies with my friends at liek 8, and now she won't let me go after 6!!! and everytime i ask to go somewhere she always asks "where are you going?" "who are you going with?" "what are you doing there?" its sooo annoying! and liek i have my 3 best friends in my nieborhood, 1 girl 2 boys. and i go to the park with them alot to just talk and hang out. and liek sometimes she says no when i ask her becuase she says this,

*sigh* kimberl,y what do you do there anyways?!

nothing!! oyu always think im up to something!!

well no, oyu can't go, you already went this week.


and im liek wtf?? she used to let me go alot, and never asked questions, its soooo annoying! like errrrggg!!! its liek she thinks im haveing sex at the park! and i haven't even had first kiss yet!

ohhh, and i don't suck at spelling, i just type to fast and make alot of typos.

yea, im a honor student, in math, science, english and im in the GT program, so i don't think i have any problems with school work.

Answer 1

Until you get a job and a place of your own, you are under her roof and need to abide by her rules. She loves you and is looking out for you. Don't take it personally, but you should lose the attitude. It will do neither of you any good.

Answer 2

Try to meet your mom halfway. She loves you and wants to protect you. At the same time you want some freedom.
Maybe have your friends over and hang out in your backyard.
Talk to your mom (calmly and without anger) and explain that you understand that she needs to trust you. Tell her that you do not want to destroy her trust. Have you told her that you have not even had your first kiss?
I let my son go to the park often when he was 10-12. Now he is 14. I have seen 14 yr olds in the park. I know what they do. I just think that he should not go to the park now. I trust him... but I do not necessarily trust other kids that I do not know.
It is a tough job being a mom. You are responsible for an awful lot. It is pretty tough being a kid though, too.
Maybe go for a walk with your friends but avoid the park. If you can tell your mom that you understand her fears and that you are not interested in "being bad" then maybe she can relax and agree to allowing you to walk and talk. I know you won't like this answer, but I do not like the park for my teen either.
Good luck. I think that will try to listen to my son a little more and be a little less "annoying" cause I know he feels that way about me too!

Answer 3

I understand how you feel. All you can do is try to always be trustworthy, never lie to her and don't try to deceive her either. If you are caught lying or doing something you shouldn't, her trust will disappear entirely and take YEARS to get back to where it is.

There are a lot of reasons she might have changed her permissiveness.

1) You are 12 and before she thought you were too young to be doing things that she's now worried about (probably sex and/or drugs)

2) She just wasn't thinking before.

She wants to protect you and keep you from making mistakes that could change your life forever.

Now, maybe you can get her to let you invite your friends back home. If she gets to know them, she may be more confident in your judgement. Maybe ask her to go to dinner (just you two) and talk to her about stuff. Ask her why she's worried about you. What can you do to help her trust you...

Talk to her, but remember as much as she might want you to 'like' her, she probably knows it's more important to make decisions to protect you, however unpopular.

Answer 4

Just think of it this way....some girls your age are left at home alone and no one really cares what they do or where they go. You're lucky to have a mom who cares. She is only wanting to protect you from making bad decisions. I had a mom the same way when I was growing up and I know she had my best interest at heart. Try to compromise with her. Remind her that you have good grades and good friends who you just like to hang out with. Nothing else. You aren't doing drugs or anything else she might be afraid you'll be exposed to. changes are she wants you to grow up happy and not make some of the bad choices that girls your age are making everywhere. Just keep your head on straight and stay away from people who do influence kids in the wrong direction. She loves you. Just remember that.

Answer 5

Not to be mean, but, if your spelling is any indication of how you perform in school, then I wouldn't be letting you go out either. Maybe you should spend more time on your schoolwork than hanging out.
Good grades, good attitude and a helpful spirit are ways to win over your parents and show them you can be responsible and deserving of priveleges such as going to the movies, the park, the mall, etc.
Best of luck.

Answer 6

that's tough coming up up! i understand as a mom of four women folk, now we've had some scrapes. I only comprehend that if i attempt to coach them extra interest; they respond. i'm speaking approximately displaying an earnest interest in what's happening with them, 'listening' to what they'd desire to declare, with no need protecting and doing little concerns for them, they did no longer inquire from me to do. issues that make their problems extra tolerable. communique and determining performs a key place in any relationship. try thinking extra easily. i've got found out that the extra suitable capacity you unfold obtainable contained accessible, the extra that is back to you. additionally on an analogous time as you communicate approximately a heated communicate is on the upward push; take a walk, elect her some flowers,and distinctive others... on an analogous time as you come, the air must be extra tolerable. tell her you do no longer would desire to argue, which you love her and would't this be settled without getting unsightly. If that doesn't artwork; try writing her a letter expressing your thoughts, in a loving way.. flow away it for her to seek for out 'after' you flow away for faculty. That way while she reads it; you would be long gone and he or she will have all day to evaluate what you wrote. I coverage, she will have the capacity to probably be extra easily responsive with the help of the element you get residing.

Answer 7

okay try this don't yell or get pissy when she says come home just do as she says do your chores your homework be honest with her let her know she can trust you! make sure she knows where you are all the time! call her when you are walking home too. let your mom know you are a responsible young woman not a child if you want her to treat you like an adult and respect you, you have to respect your mom and act like an adult. you can even ask for a compromise ask to stay out a few hours later in exchange for less hours on the computer for a few days or extra chores.

Answer 8

I totally agree with the previous answer. It may be annoying, but your Mother loves you and is looking out for you. You will understand when you have children and get a little older. I, too, thought that I knew everything when I was a teen. Then I grew up and realized I didn't know that much at all!

Answer 9

this is not annoying..its called protection, caring, concerned, and being parental too as you are only 12 years old and on top of it u r a girl and the more protection will be needed, in this nowadays material world of danger here and there...why dont u try talkin' to yer mom about this?? it helps to sit and talk about this with your parents, remember they were once your age and they know whats best for you and one fine day you too will be a parent and you will be in the same situation as your mom today and then only realize why you were being protective about it...you will do this to your kids too and all will be like in a cycle too...give it some time with your mom and eventually this will end..dont worry

Answer 10

Yup, I had the exact same problem. And my mom made me sweaters because she didn't want me to wear spaghetti straps and i couldn't wear cupped bras only sports bras and I just acted like a grown up and then after I was acting like a grown up more and more and tried not to whine any. After a while my mom just said "Kaite your really growing up" and let me do a lot more stuff. Just show that you can act really responsible in adult/teen situations

Answer 11

its because of your age your leaving the age of innocence its no longer just going to the park its saying your going to the park and sneaking off somewhere else if gets to bad have a serious talk with your mother don't just mention it sit her down that's how she will know that you feel strongly about it and just give it some time she will allow you to do more things