he looks at it as we are still married he gets very angry if I ask him if there is anyone else and he asks do I want there to be. I love him, I don't want to but I do, my head screams stupid my heart and gut says hold on, but what for, until his health is completly gone and he wants to come home when his fun is done. I have always catered to him and put me on hold. I'm scared I can't make it on my own and am afraid of being totaly alone, I work full time.
2006-08-25 16:57:05 · 8 answers · asked by startin' again 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I can understand you being scared because 2 years ago I was the same way. Believe me when I tell you that you will make it on your own. You have catered to him enough.........now it is time to start pampering yourself! Start doing things for yourself for a change. Get out and enjoy life. Good Luck!
2006-08-25 17:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by spyder44052 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, take this man off the pedestal you put him on. He doesn't deserve to be there. That's why your head is screaming stupid. It's suppose to be an equal thing not a me me me type of deal and that's how he's playing it. I'm not saying leave him. I'm saying reclaim the person you once were, stand on your own two feet and expect a little more for yourself once in a while.
You sound like a people pleaser...and if that's the case, you're a person too! Stop depending on him to make you happy and find that happiness from within. Take a class, get a hobby, join a gym, anything to build that self confidence. Once he sees that, it may just change his direction and lead to happily ever after.
2006-08-26 00:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is not making you happy. My advice is to move on. There's no need to be afraid of being alone. First of all, you work full-time, so your around people for a good part of the day. And when your not at work there's plenty of places you can go to if you feel the need to be around people: bookstore, library, laundramat, grocery store, thrift store, or join a club or the gym.
It is better to be alone than to be in a dead end relationship. Actually, once you get used to it, you might find you actually like it (being alone.) Good luck
2006-08-26 01:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question to ask is; Are you tired of being used?"He comes home when his fun is done"? If you work full time you can make it on your own. There are a lot of guys out there that will treat you as good,if not better,than he is. Get rid of the loser. He already let you know he's not going to marry you. Stop wasting time with him.
2006-08-26 00:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down!!!First,what I've concluded is he has you thinking that you cannot live without him,he turns it around on you if you think he might be cheating,and he has health problems.I say dump him you have a job and you'll be fine your heart maybe a little broken but time heals all wounds.
2006-08-26 00:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is emotional abuse if he isn't already physically abusing you.
You need to get out, go to a friend, family member, or women's shelter till you get on your feet.
Why stay in a relationship that is not satisfying to both of you, especially you ?
2006-08-26 15:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks to me like you should get out of this. You would be better off and you would feel better about yourself. Godd luck!
2006-08-26 00:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabethfrny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom? I didn't know you knew how to use a computer...
2006-08-26 00:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by monchichi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋