When ever I ask my wife for sex she acts like it's a chore. I do everything to please her but she still acts

Question

like it's an inconvience. I have given up, and I've taken to sadisfying myself often but I feel bad about it. Any advise?

Answer 1

It's called marriage, get used to it. :(

Answer 2

Maybe you aren't choosing the best time. If you are trying after she's had a hard day at work or with the kids then she is worn out and it IS a chore. If it's when she first wakes up that may not be good for her because she's thinking she could have slept a little longer if you had not started poking on her. That's how I used to feel in my younger days. Perhaps you should start out by giving her a nice massage with oil...get her nice and relaxed, while you are doing that tell her how beautiful you think her body is...lean over and start gently kissing her neck,(from behind) and touch her, you know... then maybe you can get the job done...good luck! Don't go too hard on her though. Also, make sure she is getting the benefits of going through all of that by satisfying her before you are done.

It does NOT mean that she is seeing someone else...some women just lose interest in sex until her man brings it back to life!

Answer 3

okay usually when the sex goes in any relationship there is underlying problems(keeping in mind the problem isn't the sexual act itself). The best thing to do is to try to forget about the sex(as hard to do as that is), and focus on other parts of the relationship. Try to figure out what else can be wrong. Think of it like focusing the sexual energy somewhere else. Believe it or not some of the women I've talked to say they like that sort of attention. If in doing this nothing else is wrong think a little bit more about the sex thing mentioned earlier. And if you don't want to do any of that you could just talk to her. If that fails then seek professional help of some kind with her.

Answer 4

Few guys would ask advice on such problem. I am also a wife and if I could only talk to your wife, this is what i am going to tell her:

"Good lady, sex is not a chore in a marriage. If you don't feel like having sex with your husband, go tell him.You have a right to your body. But you are missing a big part of your marriage by not tuning in with your husband! Sex within the bounds of marriage is free, guilt-free, and most enjoyable! Try initiating sex with your husband from time to time and you will realize that it is the best time of your life!Do it in the car,kitchen, bathroom, and anywhere where kids are not looking nor hearing your most animate sounds and moves!"

And for you Sir, do it the way you did it the first time. I know you know her ins and outs. Absurd but it's true: Don't do everything to please her. The rule is - do everything to please yourself first. It is her utmost responsibility to please herself also (this i learned from the book "Compleat Marriage"). With this in mind, you will get the most out of every sex encounter. And communication should be abundant. Go tell her "I want to know how I could please you more..."

Self satisfaction could be detrimental to your married life. It might give way to marital infidelity.

I wish you the best...

Answer 5

Ask her if you could do anything different that would make her feel sexy and wanted. We need more than "hey baby lets go to bed" If she is a mom she may be having a hard time going from mommy to wife. Communication is very important. Don't give up. She may also want to see a doc. It may be hormonal. But what ever you do don't suggest its hormones. That will get you sleeping in the garage or the car for months. Good Luck

Answer 6

Talk with your wife. Find out if she needs help in some area of her life where you have not been very active. Listen actively to what she is feeling. Females need to feel comfortable and loved outside of the bedroom in order to become willing participants in sex. If she is tense and uptight about her daily experiences and uncertain about her support from you in them, nights and sexual performances will be a dreadful chore.

Answer 7

There is probably another side to this tale, but if it is exactly as you say it, do not feel bad about masturbating. If you are still child free, divorce her. If you have children with her, stick it out until they are in college. (Invest in a lot of K-Y.)
I don't know why women that are married neglect the marital bed. It is sometimes laziness, and it is sometimes becuae the man is insensitive. Good Luck.

Peace.

Answer 8

Unfortunately for women it isn't the same need as for men. However, if instead of asking her, why don't you start by asking if she'd like a massage and work in it from there.

What I hate the most is being asked for sex. I would much prefer if it would happen naturally. Cuddling, kissing and then moving that way. If you start with the cuddling and kissing (and don't just do it when you want sex) it might naturally move that way.

I got rid of my husband because he would ONLY kiss me when he wanted sex.

Answer 9

Welcome to the wonderful world of marriage! I am faithful to myself and my wife.(i don't cheat) Yes, that translates to: at times I am the most non pus*y getting mother fuker.

With that said, I have quit asking for it! I think she gets worried that there is a reason that I'm not hounding her for it.... She gives it up more that way! Your old lady doesn't wanna screw when your pawing at her all the time. If you can just accept that you are not getting laid tonight... and accept that by asking for it, you have decreased your chances of getting it..... You have taken back your power of the pus*y! Its a new game now!
This doesn't happen over night! It gets hard at times. (no pun intended) If you truly want control of this situation, you have to do this! You will be glad you did!

Thank you for the 10 points.... I already know I'm gonna get it!

Answer 10

Don't ask her, just do it. Another thing to remember is to get her in the mood. A hot date with her even though she is your wife will spark the memories you once had before you got married. Do a little romance with dinner and flowers. Send her a note. Buy her sexy lingerie.

Answer 11

You can play the same game. Dont say nothing abuot it and wait for her reaction. Maybe she has emotional things goin on but Be real about it everybody needs it. Maybe something else is going on you might wanna play detective alittle bit.