Hi I'm not sure if I'm in the right catergory (so apologies if i'm not) but since i've been going out with my bf we've been having sex about 3 times a day, the sex is amazing but I just need a rest, to be honest I think I encouraged him at first cause I used to tease him alot so i kinda think its my fault, I try to make up allsorts of excuses and I tried to let him down gently, but then he thinks I'm cheating on him, how can I tell him to lay off a bit?
2006-08-25 16:36:38 · 18 answers · asked by Pauashellz 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
OK I'm a guy so the best way i would want my girl to tell me to back off is to just come out and say " hay the sex is great and all and no offense to you but we need to slow it down a bit"
2006-08-25 16:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by loveforpackers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell him to lay off. I mean if it was the other way around wouldn't your feelings get hurt? I also don't feel as if your sex is that exciting to you. If it was you'd want it just as bad. Either that or you feel tired. If you feel tired try sleeping more (earlier), maybe even power naps during the day. If you still feel tired go see a doctor because it could be possible that you don't want to due to an abnormal hormonal change or something like that. Other than that why not experiment more? I mean like Kama Sutra. I don't necessarily mean whips and handcuffs (unless you like that). Good luck to you & rest up you're going to need it!
2006-08-25 16:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by KelFrances 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're in big trouble girl. It's as much your fault as his probably. You don't have to ask for the answer, you know the answers but you don't want to do it because you think you'll loose him. What you have is a sexual relationship, of course, not a love relationship. So, keep up all the sex unless you want something more meaningful and if so, you know what to do, you don't need anybody telling you. You're just looking for some idea that will keep him from leaving you. Wow, what a catch he is, huh...
2006-08-25 16:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by dueritenow 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you need to have less because its getting painful? if so thats what you should tell him.... and if not its still a goog excuse.
I dont know how long u have been with him but if you cant tell him the truth than you are going no where fast. my mans the same way... weve been together for a while yea he gets a little upset when i say no, but tough. make it better the next time around. love your body and dont give it up at the sound of his zipper.
2006-08-25 16:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by imboard2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ideas.
One: Tell him you're sore and that you need to take a break for a few days. Still tease him and such but just wait a while and work up the tension it'll feel nice once you finally do it again.
Two: Say that you wanna try something and go a few days without any sex but still tease him but tell him that you wanna get him worked up. Get my drift?
Hope I helped.
2006-08-25 16:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with my husband. We use to have sex number of times a day, no once in a blu moon. He thought I was cheating on him at first because I didnt want it all the time. But over time he got over it and he knows I am not cheating on him.
2006-08-25 16:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by ilovemybabies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... if he thinks you are cheating on him just because you are not in the mood for sex then he is a jerk and you should dump him. He thinks that way because he probably is doing it. So if you say no and he thinks you are with someone else is because when you say no he goes look for someone else. And he might just find the person once and again...
2006-08-25 17:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Horumaket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep teasing him, and tell him that he'll only get sex when you want him to get sex, and let him know that he has to _earn_ sex with you... make him romance you, maybe help with chores, etc, then when he's really really crazy and has been super helpful, then maybe give him some.
2006-08-26 16:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by priiius 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feed the the dog at the door you cant be mad when comes back to the door if you cut the dude off you wont have to worry if hes cheating because he is going to get sex somewhere if not u then who
2006-08-25 16:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by reno_tony_casino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...why do you want a guy who is manipulating you to have sex? If he's accusing you of cheating on him...time to toss him before he gets worse. Manipulation is a HUGE RED FLAG!!!
2006-08-25 16:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋