in school masturbating!!!!?

Question

There is this kid that sits next to me in some of my classes. Some days he is in 4 of my classes and other days he is only in 2. Well he jacks off the whole time! For a whole entire hour! Isn't that a little much? It just really makes me uncomfortable. I tell him to stop but he just keeps on going. PLEASE HELP!

Oh and i even tell him in person that i see him jack off in class, and i say dude stop masturbating! and he still does it no matter what. He is autistic too, so could that be a reason why he does it? he is in high school!

Answer 1

As the mother of an autistic son, and the mother of a non-autistic daughter, I can tell you exactly the best thing for everyone concerned.

You do need to report this.

Regardless of "who" is doing it, I know I certainly wouldn't want my daughter to be subjected to having to watch or tolerate that every day. That's not fair to you.

However, considering his disibilities, discreetly telling him will probably not do the job. Autistic people see only black and white, generally. No gray. So, if he's already developed the mindset that this is okay and normal, then it's going to take some special attention to correct this thinking. I know once my son has decided something, wild horses can't change his mind.

It sounds to me like he has "discovered" his body, as we all do during puberty. However, some children with some disabilities don't know how to "process" what they go through or feel. Children with Autism don't possess social skills that other children do. So, I'm sure he doesn't understand what he's doing, the magnitude of it, or the effect it's having on those around him.

So, he needs intervention to help him. He may need a sex education teacher to teach him what's going on with his body. He may need to have his "IEP" updated to include such intervention (if you say that to your teacher or his parents, they'll know what you're talking about).

But, at all cost, he can't continue to think that what he's doing is normal or he will likely never stop. And, as an adult in the workplace (assuming he's high-functioning enough to work one day), he certainly can't continue to do this. As an adult, people will be even less understanding and he will likely have legal troubles and be misconstrued as a pervert, although that's not what it's really all about.

Kudos to you, for understanding that the autism could be related. As I've said, it does sound to me like he just doesn't know how to understand the changes his body is going through. And, as a parent, I can say that there are so many other issues we deal with, his parents may not even realize this is an issue their child is going through. Without someone to bring it to their attention, they will likely not even know it's happening in order to address it. So, I'm sure it's not that they're ignoring it, but likely they're not aware.

However, my friend, it still isn't fair for you to have to endure this. And, it's not doing him any good to not have this addressed. Like I said, I certainly wouldn't want or expect my daughter to have to tolerate it, even knowing what autism is. However, throwing some "book" at him, charging him, expelling him, or all those other ideas that have been suggested that are "normal" reactions, just won't work in this unique situation. If you were dealing with a "typically-developed" child, then typical solutions would be in order. But, with exceptional children, you have to address the situations with exceptional solutions.

So, DO speak up, for your sake, his sake, and any others that will sit near him in any class in the years to come. However, present the problem to your teacher or principle in a way that lets them know you do understand that the boy has a unique perception of what's going on. Share what you've learned here. You'll be applauded for your maturity, insight and wisdom. But, I'm sure they'll do everything to protect you from experience this again from him.

Answer 2

As much as I enjoy jacking off, there is a time and a place for everything and a classroom in NOT the place for jacking off! I think the answer is obvious...tell the teacher! You may be a bit uncomfortable but that's the only answer if he has ignored your pleas not to do it. If the teacher doesn't do anything, tell the principal or dean or whoever...maybe even your parents and let them complain. That should do it!

Answer 3

His autism definately has a role in this behavior. But he needs to learn that this is not normal sociol behavior and he should not subject you to this type of very personal behavior. So you need to one ask your teacher to sit some place else, two inform your parents of the embarrassing situation, three, see a counselor at school for help. Your teacher would really like to know this and would help you. Pick a class where you have a female teacher if that will help.

Answer 4

You need to relate what you see and how it makes you feel to the teacher. There'll likely be some forms you'll be asked to fill out and an investigation into the matter will be made. They'll likely counsel Johnny Boy and tell him to either stop all such activity on school grounds or face suspension and maybe expulsion under grounds of SEXUAL HARRASSMENT.

If they catch Johnny Boy wriggling his flipper in class, they'll surely suspend him and/or (depending on the 'severity' of what they find ) expell him.

But a word of forewarning: making false SEXUAL HARRASSMENT claims can net you a suspension and have your parents face REAL Civil Lawsuit charges, which may have them put up their house to pay off court judgement costs and fees.

Answer 5

Tell someone about it, and hopefully they can sort it out. There is no excuse for this type of behaviour. I'm autistic and even I know that masturbation should be done in a private place.

Answer 6

Where is your compassion? He's autistic. You should diddle yourself too so he doesn't feel alone in this world. Pull a Jolly Rancher from your underwear at the beginning of class and give it to him to eat. He'll probably go nuts and class will be cancelled. I would save it for a test day, though.

Answer 7

Just tell a teacher... Tell the teacher that, this kid keeps playing with himself, and you feel very uncomfortable near him.

Answer 8

Tell the teacher privately and you can move to other set or tell him to stop and get a life. Help this helps

Answer 9

Simply tell the teacher so that (A) he/she can change seating assignments and (b) advise the school psychologist to deal with the kid. He DOES have problems.

Answer 10

WELL YOU MUST NOT BE SMART YOU CAN HAVE HIM EXPELLED FROM SCHOOL YOU CAN FILE A BIG LAWSUIT AGAINST THE SCHOOL FOR LETTING THIS HAPPEN YOU CAN FILE AGAINST HIM BECAUSE YOU GOT TRAUMATIZED FROM THIS INCIDENT AND CANT LOOK AT GUYS THE SAME THERE IS SO MANY CHARGES IT WILL TAKE TO MUCH TO LIST TELL YOUR PARENTS THEN GET A LAWYER DONT WORRY TO PAY HIM THE CHARGES WILL