Ive decided to divorce my wife of 8 years because she voted for bush in 2004 and 2000. My values are for freedom and democracy and I cannot be married to her knowing she supports a war that has caused thousands of deaths based on lies and fabrications and special interests for halliburton.
I spoke to an attorney and told him about filing the divorce but I do not know how to break the news to my wife. I LOVE HER more than anything but she doesnt share my values of peace and tolerance. How do I go about doing this?
2006-08-25 16:04:32 · 28 answers · asked by ast5792 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't think i'm disrespecting you and your values, i actually do have the same values as you do. but i do respect the fact that your wife has her own opinions and also she has a strong self-esteem to stick with it.
my husband and i are completely opposites when it comes to political opinions also. he's a republican, i'm a democrat. i don't like the concept of war, and he was once in the military. i don't like guns and wish the second ammendment didn't exist, and he's a member of the NRA. the thing is, he respects my opinions and i respect his. i love my husband because of his personality outside of the political aspects. the same goes for him.
i think you're divorcing her for all the wrong reasons. you shouldn't of married her if your values were this strong in the first place. you must wonder, as much as she's against your political values...is she trying to divorce you? or does she loves and accepts you for who you are? because apparently you do not love nor accept her for who she is. well you don't love her enough for it.
2006-08-25 21:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I knew politics didn't mix with business, but in marriage? I thought everyone was entitled to their own opinion. Have you heard her out before you take such a drastic stand? I mean I voted for Bush too, and everyday I kick myself for it. I don't support the war, but I support the soldiers, alot of people do...maybe this is her stand. I have a hard time believing that you would marry someone who didn't share your values and beliefs. I mean surely this must have come up at some point in time. And if it didn't, what kind of marriage was this?
I don't mean to be harsh, I'm just being realistic. It's incredibly hard to concieve the notion that you can love somebody with such a cold and heartless view that you claim. Maybe divorce is the right thing for you, not so much for her beliefs, but because it sounds as if you really didn't know each other that well to begin with.
And if you want to know how to tell her, be a man, be democratic and say "Honey, this isn't working out, I think I'll just run away from all the problems...oh and I'll need a divorce". Then go bury your head in the sand with the rest of the cowards. I mean that is what you are doing right? Instead of being democratic as you claim and allowing her to have her own views, you are taking a cowards way out?
2006-08-25 16:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop using the War in Iraq as an excuse to divorce your wife. Maybe there are other reasons you want to divorce her. If your political views are reason. That is wrong. You should not divorce someone you love because you both have different political views. If you do, you are just stepping all over the values that this country was founded on. Freedom of speech and Religion. Your wife should be able to have her own views without having to worry about it destroying her family.
Sgt G
Baghdad Iraq.
2006-08-25 16:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by gooch67042 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first step would be to look into a mirror and ask yourself why do you REALLY want a divorce. If you love someone and are over the age of 10, political differences do not make a difference as to whether you are in love or not. I think that there is an underlying reason for the desire for a divorce. Maybe there is a compatibility issue or maybe you aren't in love but just in love with the idea of love. Relationships do go through a period of re-evaluation in the time frame that you are in right now but I seriously doubt if political differences is the real reason. Once you are honest with yourself about the reason for wanting a divorce then I believe you won't find it so hard to tell her because in yourself you will know and be able to explain.
2006-08-25 16:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn M 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really do love her like that you wouldn't be divorcing her, and I thnk you may end up regretting this later. You have to believe that she is doing what she thinks is best whether you believe in it or not. She obviously has some strong convictions, as do you. She however does not appear to be divorcing you based on the fact you didn't vote for bush (which by someone with her convictions may seem cowardly as you see her as callious and miss informed). She believes, right or wrong that the country itself is at stake if drastic action is not taken to defend it. I'm sure she has considered the lost of life and is greived by it but she sees it as the only way to save the rest of the country. You have to consider her motives. I"m sure she is a good person whos heart is in the right place or you would not love her.
2006-08-25 17:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you be for love and peace if you have war in your own household? In my opinion, this is not a good reason for divorce. You are letting your views come between your relationship too much. If you have been married for 8 years, surely you can put this aside. Agree not to talk about it or agree to disagree and move on! Divorcing your wife will not end the war. Bush will be out of office in the future and you will have other things to talk about. I am not saying your points aren't valid, but just how valuable is your marriage!? Please weigh all pros and cons before even suggesting an idea as ludicrous as this!
2006-08-25 16:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by mom_of_geniuses 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is a joke. Divorcing someone because of politics is one of the most pathetic things I have ever heard of. If political views were so important to you, why didn't you discuss this with her before you two got married?
Besides in 2 years, Bush will be out of office and it won't matter anymore. Is it worth making a decision that will last the rest of your life over something so temporary?
2006-08-25 18:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sass B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't believe you're serious.. just b/c you have different political views doesn't mean you have to divorce you wife if you really love her like ou say you do... besides, peace and tolerance don't always work. it is for people like you that our men and women of our armed forces are serving and dying... so you can have freedom of speech and choice. so what if your wife voted for bush.. you sound like a liberal democrat. you have freedom b/c of our military and what they fight for. and you believe in democracy? true democracy doesn't exist.. never have.. never will.. we have a democratic republic- not a democracy. and would you believe that most of the people in iraq actually support us being there? there are only a few rebel insurgents that are against us.. the iraqi people want freedom too- and we are there.. trying to help. so since you don't stand behind our military
(obviously since you don't support the war) feel free to stand in front of them... you're being a baby if you want to divorce your wife over this... grow up
2006-08-25 16:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? Is this a joke? No one except a half-wit would divorce someone just because they voted for someone they didn't like. Do you want a wife or a robot?
Maybe that's what you should get next time. A robot. That way you could just program them to vote the way you want.
Why don't you tell your wife that you're divorcing her because you just discovered that you were a complete moron and you realize that she deserves someone better.
2006-08-25 16:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bad idea! If you love her and this is just the difference of opinions then, I'm sorry, HOW SAD! I really hope this is a joke because how bad to be her if it's not! I support your views, but I would never divorce over matter of opinion on the war!
2006-08-25 16:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by sarahbeth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋