How can I cope with or get rid of my paranoia and trust issues with the people that I love?

Question

I'm a 21 yr. old female who has a major problem with paranoia (I think that no one truly loves or cares for me unless they want something, and I always think people are trying to say something bad about me when in actuality, most of the time they're just joking) and I also have a problem trusting people. Even after I've known them for years, I still feel like giving up on the relationships sometimes because they don't really care about me. How can I deal with these problems and learn to trust people?

Answer 1

You need to take a moment with yourself. You may have a guilt feeling from your past and may not realize it. Your mind and body can act on things without you realizing. Look at everyone very close to you. Do you really believe that no one can love you unless they want something? People sometimes believe what they want to believe. You may have trust issues that you will soon have to face. Don't be afraid to face this. It may help you. You can talk to these people about your trust issues or it may be deeper than that where you may have to seek counseling. There is nothing wrong with that. It may be the key to your problem.

Answer 2

I wish I could help you on this one but I too have this same problem and I have since I could remember. I try to think that not everyone is out to get me and building trust is a very hard thing for me to do. I am only 24 years old and I cnat shake it either sometime I think that life would better be lived without anyone, but I knwo that cant be done cus people need people that is just how we were made. If you need someone to talk to you can me.

Answer 3

You don't need a lot of friends...just trust in the ones tht have been there for u all the time. You're still young...

Answer 4

If you LOVE yourself, you get good self esteem, if you dont LOVE yourself (and wait for people to approve of you), you develop low self esteem. There is a triangle of life (or LOVE) in life. If you ensure that it is completed, you will be HAPPY and CONFIDENT for the rest of your life. But if a break occurs somewhere,then we feel rage, fear, anger, anxiety, depression and other things. The triangle goes between GOD, YOU and OTHER PEOPLE. 1. GOD LOVES you and you must also LOVE HIM back. This gives you hope and faith in a higher being. This way you know that even when you are down, that is not your end because the wisdom and might of GOD is your limit. This is BEING AT PEACE WITH GOD. 2. YOU must LOVE your self because God breathed (HIS SPIRIT) into you so you are perfect no matter what you are or what you have done. If you fail to LOVE yourself, you will have LOW SELF ESTEEM because you dont think you are good enough and you are looking to outsiders to LOVE you, before you may accept yourself. WRONG. You must LOVE yourself first!! LOVE YOURSELF as you are, just where you are, right now. STOP READING NOW and THINK this line in your mind " I LOVE MYSELF" or " I LOVE YOU Sean, Peter, George etc". It might be difficult initially but it will soon be easy. That is called self acceptance OR BEING AT PEACE WITH YOUR SELF. As you do this, you will be more comfortable when you think about your self and other people. You will also learn new things about your self that you have never noticed and will soon know who you are and what you want in life. You wont even be bordered about what people say about you anymore. But more importantly you will know what you want and have the boldness to go for it. THIS IS CALLED BEING AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF OR GOOD SELF ESTEEM. 3. you must LOVE your neighbour as your self which brings PEACE into the world. There is no guarantee that the other person will love you back because they also have free will but you would have done your part.if you fail to love another, you become arrogant and selfish and it will be worse off with a good self esteem. The most important thing now is to be at PEACE WITH YOURSELF and that means repeating it in your mind to yourself everyday that "I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU......" Remember to do that more when you are dealing with other people, especially those who intimidate you. Pray for the holy spirit to help you remember to love yourself GOD BLESS AND HELP YOU

Answer 5

Take pills, go to a psyciatrist, keep a diary or just stfu and deal with it. The only one who can fix you is you. If it feels wrong it is wrong. If you feel paranoid, ask yourself why. Life is uncertain why should you be certain?