ok..am bi and i have a guy. we see each other very seldom just when he want me to see him and when his apartment is free.bacause of a very hard situation..he is muslim, i am christian i give him ring & msgs everytime i missed him but no reply.he knows i love him but i cant tell about what he feels.Now i decided to stop doing what i did before like giving a ring..to test if he really cares for me..i hope am doing right..we just met 3 weeks ago..and we see each other for 3 times..
2006-08-25 15:59:09 · 5 answers · asked by Student 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
you are probably scaring him wih your many "rings and msgs". It sounds like you are stalking him after only three dates. Hold back on the contact. Let him come to you. If he's interested, he will. If not, then move on.
2006-08-25 22:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time, don't crowd him. Muslims are very prohibitive of homosexuality; he is feeling all kinds of cultual pressure which you and I never have to experience.
tell him how you feel and you understand how it is. then leave it there. if he can't date you, c'est la vie; there are a lot of guys out there.
I once considered dating a Muslim girl (yes, being bi can be a little disconcerting) and she told me flat out that she was not attracted to Indian boys but that her parents would rather have her be a spinster rather than marry outside of her ethnic group....life is tough.
2006-08-25 23:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Fancy Pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing..If he wants you he will contact you...but if he wants you just for quick sex when it's convenient for him--move on ..you sound like a nice guy--you can do better.
2006-08-26 00:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not as at home with his sexuality as you are. He possibly doesn't want to admit it to himself and his culture is more prohibitive of it than yours. Give him time but don't chase him. There are plenty of nice guys out there who know what they want.
2006-08-25 23:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by soulgirl76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
searching..,
I don't know how much emotion that you have in this, it sounds like enough. He's already made the choice. It's you that has to understand it.
2006-08-25 23:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋