Failing marriage how to get a life? 40 something 3 boys 1 in college 2 at home?

Question

I am 40 something and do not work , moved in the last 4 years to a place unfamiliar, I bought a 93 Blazer so I can take off afraid of "man" I am with I already know get out asap. yea so easy, right. no money no house 3 friends I can rely on , none of them work , I don't work , on ssi ?????????

Answer 1

Tuff situation.. first you need an income.. then a plan to get out. Good Luck.

Answer 2

1. Let success rise like a Phoenix from the Ashes and do take the trouble to accept some things about your spouse with a pinch of salt and do try to say "Successful Marraige" instead of "Failing Marraige"
2. Throw your self into learing a trade - Typing, Computer Data Entry, Hair Styling, Bridal Makeup, and a variety of simple things can be learnt and will provide a reasonable income to see your children through school and college.
3. Call all the kids together and plan together to save your marraige by hook or by crook - and dont become an Old Marm with the children or your spouse.
4. Hone your skills - and they say life begins at 40 - so you have a long way to go and when you focus on being successful you will work and you will drop the habit of not working outside your house ... and your relationship will flower ...
5. Have confidence in your self and you will be able to restore confidence in each other too
All the best

Answer 3

A dear friend of mine divorced in her mid 40s after 20-something years of marriage and she picked herself right up and went to college at the same time her kids did. She had it put in the divorce papers that the husband would provide support until she had been graduated from college for 6 months. She is now very successful and having the time of her life. Things may be bleak now, but develop a plan, seek out a support group, and believe in yourself.

Answer 4

First get a restraining order if you are afraid.Then,file for divorce.Sell what you can and move far far away!Be careful telling "friends" where you are because they are probably his friends too.Get a JOB A.S.A.P. Finish the divorce and move on.You will meet someone new when you least expect it!If you cannot work,SSI,then get a roommate or two.I have been there!Good luck!

Answer 5

either you have the strength to move on with your life or you don't. it doesn't matter if you have nothing. if you need to build strength then you need to take it slow. tell your man your bored at home and want to work to fill up time in your day. don't get some dumb job that pays nothing with no future. do your research. find something you might enjoy and find out how to get it. does it need education....go to school. does it need experience.....get a lesser job and work up to it. the whole point is build a foundation for moving on. now do it

Answer 6

Call the local womens shelter they have all the answers I wish i had done that when I needed to

Answer 7

well before you can get a life, you need to start off by applying for jobs, and start working.

Answer 8

it form of feels your alliance has been desperate and you have chose to renowned an auspicious date for marriage. you may desire to seek for advice from the guy who performs the marriage in accordance on your faith. he will ascertain the date in consultation alongside with your loved ones. you will come across many dates and you will could desire to ascertain in accordance to the suitability.

Answer 9

God does not oppress and loves kindness,call on Him alone,and be patient.

Answer 10

You have to WANT to help yourself and it doesnt sound like you want to. Thats the first thing you have to do...