I am a married woman who's separated from her husband, and is currently involved with a married man who is not separated from his wife. I am in love with him. He is 15 years my senior, but he says that in 7 years when his son is out of high school he will be with me. He says that he is in love with me also. Would I be a fool to wait?
2006-08-25 15:49:41 · 18 answers · asked by Broken Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DONT WAIT.
No one knows wat will happens in next 7 days let alone you are talking abt 7 years
If he truly loves u, he should leave his wife now and bring his child and stay with you and all of you will stay happily as a family and u shall assist him to bring up his child with love as much love as you love ur man.
2006-08-25 15:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by angelinecja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say this, I do not think you should put your life on hold for somebody elses man. remember that he is not yours. I really feel that you should not date a married man because whether you realize it or not the world is a big circle and what goes around comes back.
1. If he leaves his wife how do you know he wont do the same to you with another girl?
2. while your waiting he may not leave and you have wasted your life passing by good men waiting.
3. If you decided to be with him after his son graduates do you want the drama of his son finding out and not accepting you as a step mom?
4. Is he worth sacrificing years of your life to?
If you just need to be with him still see others on the side do not sell yourself short! Good luck!
2006-08-25 23:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by kiwikofii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same dilemma as you are in right now but despite the heartaches it caused me, I just separated ways with him. I did not want to break a family and I knew that he wouldn't be completely happy with me with the thought that his family would be crying over his loss.
If you could really take that without any feeling of guilt, wait for him if you really love him. But many things may yet to happen during all those seven years that you will be waiting for his freedom so don't ever believe 100% that he will really leave his family for you. Think about it twice before you commit yourslef to him because once you are committed to each other, there should be no turning of one's back against each other.
Search your heart and soul this early. Can you take yourself as a family-breaker in the future? Can you face the world chin up that you are clean and whole? Can you take the tears and anger of his family members and possibly yours who will be against you? And so many other related questions that you will have to ask yourself before you can make the decision.on which your future happiness or peace of mind will greatly depend. Good luck.
2006-08-25 23:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, in 7 years, something will come up and he won't be able to be with you. He most likely wont leave his wife. But he'll be a coward and keep seeing you saying he loves you, blah blah. You need to leave him. He cant give you what you need right now, and that is the reason why you are breaking this off. There are so many other guys out there that arent cowards like this one. And if you cant find one, get a dog until you do find one.
2006-08-25 23:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by maisie24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be a fool to wait. Trust me if he is not ready to be with you now he defiantly will not be ready in 7 years! Move on and either work things out with your husband or get a divorce and find a man who can be your 100%.
2006-08-25 22:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it would be unwise to wait. First of all the six or seven years of your life will be wasted grabbing what little time that doesn't conflict with your significant others family. If he truly loves you he will not wait for the children to graduate. Young adults will not be happy but the tension and actions won't go unnoticed and sends a improper message. I don't believe that the 7 years is going to change his mind. If he wants to be with you he will be with you now. And as for you, you can't relive those seven years later. And who knows how many opportunities you are cheating yourself out of in those seven years.
2006-08-25 22:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked...yes you would be a fool to wait for him. And why would you want to wait for a man for 7 years? No man's worth putting your life on hold for that length of time..
2006-08-25 22:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time. If he loves you he will leave his wife before 7 years." But fools rush in where wise man freer to tread..."
2006-08-25 22:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you would. Typically, men do not leave their wives for their mistresses. He's just keeping you hanging on. Do yourself a self esteem favor, ditch him and find an unattached guy to settle down with.
2006-08-25 22:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he would be with you now. He is only using his son as an excuse to stay in the marriage.
2006-08-25 22:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋