My experience has been that white people are friendly to minorites when alone, but when white people are in groups they're significantly less friendly to minorities. I've gone to restaurants with friends in predominately white neighborhoods and have been made to wait while many white patrons coming after me got seated and served before us.
Should one point it out to the staff and risk getting worse service on the visit? Perhaps put up with the poor service and not come back?
2006-08-25 15:11:58 · 14 answers · asked by mistergenderbender 1 in Dining Out ➔ United States ➔ Los Angeles
racism is ugly
the best thing is to stay neutral to it no matter what, never become polarized and racist yourself
dine out with a group of people from all different races every day
2006-08-25 19:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You "suspect" you're being discriminated against? Trust me, if you experience real racism or discriminatin, you'll know it.
It's clear that you have your own ideas about white people and that you are predisposed to see them as racists or bigots. This is compounded by the fact that you seem to be throwing a pretty wide net. You're not talking about consistent discrimination at one or even two restaurants, you seem to be seeing prejudice everywhere.
You have no way of knowing whether the white people who came in after you had been there earlier and stepped out or have reservations or have a party of the right size for the table that is available.
If you really feel there's an issue and you really give a damn, then run a test. Get some white friends to enter as a group at the same time and make a separate request for a table. Even if this plays out as you seem to expect, you'll have to repeat the experiment. Then, report your findings to a local paper or blog. If you prefer a less intensive approach, write letters to the owner and manager and send a copy to your local paper.
The fact is that the world discriminates based on appearance but it usually has a lot more to do with physical attractiveness and class than with race.
2006-08-28 20:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being discriminated against--no matter what the reason is--you should not let it go. Ever. Say something to the manager. If they are not there, come back and say something. But don't give them your business. Yes, I am white. Yes, I am American. It doesn't matter. People are people. America is supposed to be a land of equality. Being mistreated because of race, creed, sex, whatever is unacceptable. So, if you are being mistreated do not let it go. If you had an experience where you were not treated right--say something. If it is a case of someone having an earlier reservation than you, the manager will humbly apologize and explain that. If it isn't, they will find some excuse. You will know the difference.
2006-08-27 00:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem. General public is hard to deal with but if you are being discriminated against by an employee of a restaurant you should speak to the manager, owner or someone at the corporate office!. I had the same problem. I got a $250 gift card when I complained.
2006-08-29 19:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by tianac23@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see?
I'm a white person... when I go to a predominately WHITE Restaurant, I have white people come in and sometimes some of them are seated first. Why? I'm not sure... perhaps they have an earlier reservation, perhaps they know the OWNER, perhaps they are regulars? Perhaps they are the the hostess' brother in law.
In that case... it's NOT RACIALLY motivated. Why do you assume it is?
2006-08-25 22:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a predominately black, brown, yellow, pink, whatever the color patron restaurant you want or don't want. Everybody gets crappy service and prefered treatment one time or another. Move on.
2006-08-27 17:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by bigbadb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be specific - -speak to the manager in a nice, gentle tone.
Then state you will not return and many of your friends will
be happy to know how this place and staff are treating
people!!
good luck
2006-08-29 13:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are imagining things. Perhaps it was just the number of people in your party that couldn't be seated before the others.
2006-08-25 23:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tamara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
POINT IT OUT!, Write a letter to the general manager, district manager, go on the internet do the research. I do not care if they do not like us, it is there prerogative, but guess what?..... they have to be fair.
2006-08-26 12:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Happy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, seriously, how many times are you going to ask this question? Rather than sit on Answers complaining about it, do something.
2006-08-27 14:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋