Scared to Tell?

Question

I am always scared to tell my mom how I feel when something has happened. If I think its unfair I never have the guts to say something because the first and last time I did, She blew up at me about how life isn't fair and all that garbage. I want to tell her things when I think its unfair about how she treats me but I always end up saying "Mom" and then I just say never mind. How can I let go of the last time I told how I felt and tell her how I feel?

Yes 1hAppyMoM. She doesn't cool down. Sadly she is the type of person that doesnt cool down until they've told the person that wrote them the letter her feelings and doesn't even bother to listen to that person's.

Answer 1

Have you tried writing her a letter and leaving it for her to read when you weren't home? That way she has time to absorb what you're saying and get mad then cool down before blowing up on you.

Answer 2

I know that you dont want to hear this, but your Mom has the final say as well as your Dad. The are right life isn't fair and you actually need to learn that before you becme a young adult and try to live on your own. If you go out into the world under the false sense that lifeis always fair, you are going to be hurt even more. People will see that you are niave and they will take advantage of you just for starters.
The real problem is that kids now a days are spoiled for many reasons and parents aren't allowed to be parents because of silly laws. Don't be afaraid to talk to her, just understand that your Mom is trying to do the right things to protect you and to keep you safe.

Answer 3

look~i know sometimes mom blows up and that sucks alot.

it must be hard not being able to talk to her about your feelings, but you do need to talk to someone.

talk to a counselor at school, or if you go to church, talk to a minister or someone on the clergy there...do you have any older siblings or anyone close to your age that you trust?

then, write your mom a note telling her how she makes you feel when she blows up at you for no reason... she should know.

just in the note, don't be like her; (i mean accusatory or judgemental)...just gently tell her how bad it hurts you and how much you need her.

that should make her think about the way she is treating you.

good luck~i know you can rise above it!!

put a smile on your face and remember that nothing is that serious that you can't get past it.

Answer 4

I would write her a letter and leave it for her to read when you aren't there. Express your feelings openly and if she is still not supportive of your feelings and willing to listen to your problems, find someone else to confide in. Schools and places like Planned Parenthood have councelors you can talk to.

Answer 5

i know how you feel right now... i've always had to keep my feelings in... if she did something unfair and i said something i got slapped across the face for it... actually about a month ago she did something and i barely got a word out before her hand with her huge freeking sharp engagement ring came flying at me... i had a pretty nice cut on my face but it was good for making her feel bad lol i kinda took advantage of that... but idk moms just sometimes arent fair and i've basically learned i have to learn with it....

Answer 6

You just need to get it over with and tell her..yeah lifes not fair..but if shes treating you crapy..that needs to be adressed..just swollow your fears and do it..thats pretty much the only way..or to make yourself do it..tell her you need to talk to her about something..then..she prob wont leave you alone until you spill.

Answer 7

tell her that you are trying very hard to have a productive conversation and that you need to her to REALLY LISTEN and not hurl judgemental comments at you before you finish.

Answer 8

Let it go. Put away your fears and you'll be fine. Just think happy thoughts as you tell it.

Answer 9

forget telling her your feelings.
SUCK IT UP OR GO TO A THERAPIST.

T H E R A P I S T

Answer 10

Please tell her each and every thing, she is your best friend.