I just got a new job TODAY!! After all this time!! Well i mention to my spouse that the guy who will be my supervisor was nice and he hug this girl at work, i assume they know each other... it seemed anyway then i was telling him my boss was teling me about his kids and one is a baby that had to have surgey and all... then my spouse acts mad, saying i shouldn't go to work and talk about personeel stuff, which I was not, the guy was just tell ing me and that he may need time off with his son, !! My spouse said i should of stoped it there and say i don't need to know !!! I said i can't be that mean so i listened but i diidn't talk about anything but work!! He started accusing me of gosping!!!??? He has always said that you should only talk about work at work and leave personal stuff at home and i agree, but whats wrong with people talking about there kids.... The head boss even said they are like family there and get to know eah other and about their family!
2006-08-25 14:59:07 · 15 answers · asked by sports_runner_racing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the husband is jealous. You are having a new life outside of your marriage and he is not part of it. If you get friendly with the people at work you will be talking and joking and your husband will not be part of that. I think he sounds insecure and jealous. It will take a lot of work on your part to keep reminding him that he is the most important thing in your life and not the people at work.
2006-08-25 15:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more open with people than others, I tend to be that way. I don't see why your husband is so put off by that, at least he is not an asshole boss, he should feel flatered you are someone he can feel comfortable and open up to. As for him saying you should keep work at work, that is hard for a lot of people to do seeing how you spend most of your day there, That is all my husband and I usually talk about.
2006-08-25 15:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you work in a family type business(they think of them self's as family) I think you're right. They want to know about your family(NO details,please). I worked in a small factory like that. It helps, if you have children,that can get sick. They understand more if you have to take off work because of Doctor appointments or illness. I moved or I would still be there. I loved going to work! How many people can say that??? Just don't tell Hubby everything about work.
2006-08-25 15:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband is worried........... You haven't worked in a while and now that you have a job you need your husband less, plus you are meeting new people. If your husband wants you to work then he is going to have to get a grip. People at work do talk, otherwise you will seem stuck up and no one will want any thing to do with you, this will cause you to have an uncomfortable work atmosphere. Your husband may just need to get use to the change, but he most definitely needs to chill out.
2006-08-25 15:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does your spouse do for a career? Sounds to me he is guilty of something. There is nothing wrong with getting to know co-workers makes work life more enjoyable when you can tolerate others. Why would anyone get mad about talking to the opposite sex about children? If your spouse is clean of guilt then he needs to grow up.
You can not leave work at work and home at home. We as humans carry our baggage with us. If you have issues at work who are you going to talk to about them? Your spouse. If you have a problem at home it will not go away as soon as you open the door to your work. Be yourself at work and home and you will do just fine.
Good luck with the spouse.
2006-08-25 15:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by flopper72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse is afraid you are or will talk about him/her at work.
He/she sounds insecure in your relationship.
There is nothing wrong with taliking with your co-worker about your family or vise-versa. Especially if the work place is "like family"
It sounds like your new boss was just letting you know that he/she would be taking some time off, to be with his/her son will in surgery.
I see nothing wrong with it.
Your spouse needs to take some counseling sessions, with you. It sounds as though you two are having a problem with "security and trust" in your relationship.
2006-08-25 15:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Regina R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You husband is jealous. Your new job has given you freedom your husband doesnt want you to have. He is afraid if you get personal at work then you might find that what you have at home is not what you want. He also has no trust in you and fears that you will meet some one and leave him. Trust me I have never been jealous untill a year ago and I have pushed my wife away.
2006-08-25 15:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's being protective. Did he over-react? Absolutely. There's nothing wrong with talking about your kids at work. More personal things, no, keep those at home. But he shouldn't have bit off your head like that.
2006-08-25 15:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with you indulging your boss telling you about his family. It's innocent enough. I think your husband is a little overboard with his ideas. Maybe you should go to counseling with him before it gets to be a jealousy issue and a big problem.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-25 15:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband is overreacting over something that's is just not worth overreacting over! your boss wasn't hitting on you, so why is your husband mad? and i agree, your boss is probably telling you his situation he is in so you can understand why he's not at work (so you won't think he's lazy or anything, since you're new). i believe your husband just doesn't want you to work and is using that as an excuse so you don't work.
2006-08-25 21:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋