ever since i started highschool..it seems we have nothing in common anymore. maybe it's just the stress..because we just started this week, but i guess i'm the one who wants to seperate and meet new people, and she's the one who takes it as i'm shoving her out of my life. i just wanna spread out...but i TOTALLY don't wanna lose the friendship we have. do you think she's offended? i don't know what to do. i just think the whole "highschool" thing is giving us a whole new view on life..like we can't be just a 2-some anymore..and we should meet new people. but idk. what do you think?
2006-08-25 14:43:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes as one matures and develops new interests and abilities, the friends one is accustomed to doing things with in the past just do not fit into the new scenario. You do not have to sacrifice the positive feelings and the understanding between the two of you if you are willing to share and discuss some of the changes that are taking place in your respective lives. However, there is nothing wrong with either or both of you meeting and forming friendships with other people. Drifting away does not have to be hurtful as long as it is not too abruptly done and two-way communication continues to take place.
2006-08-25 14:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of a friend I have. We both kinda separated. I had a few friends that I've hung out w/ before, and gradually, I became best friends w/ them. The original friend went her separate way as well. We don't really hang out anymore because we basically don't have any classes together, but every once in awhile we say "hello." Although that isn't enough, it's best for us to just have a different group of friends. There's nothing wrong w/ hanging out w/ different people, but if ur friend has always been there for u, never turn ur back on her. Explain 2 her that she's still welcome 2 b ur friend and that u'll still be best friends, but tell her that u'd like 2 meet new friends as well. Suggest that she should do the same, then u all can hang out together. I'm sure she'll respect ur decision. Stay in touch w/ her and never forget ur roots- ur good friends who've been there through thick and thin. High school is full of different people who will try 2 pressure u. U may easily get fooled by those who claim that they're ur friends, but who really aren't. Good blessings!
2006-08-25 14:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just part of growing up. The best advice I can give you is to keep in touch even though you wont be spending as mush time together. As the two of you grow up, you'll spend less and less time together. Make sure that you make an effort to get together twice a month or so to "catch up". Make sure she knows that you are still interested in what's going on in her life and still want to share yours. Let her know that although you are both growing up, you still lover her and value your friendship.
My childhood best friend of 25 years just got married. I clearly remember feeling exactly the way you are now. Although we are very different people today, and have little in common, there is nothing we wouldn't do for each other. I know that if I were to do something totally stupid, she'd be the one that would bail me out of jail, and I her, if ever needed . Of course, I would never need her to.
It's OK to grow up... change is good. Just don't lose touch!
2006-08-25 15:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by capi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you'll coming from I also went through the same thing but I was on the other foot. I mean I felt like she was the only one I could trust and then all of a sudden it was like she didn't want to my friend anymore and I felt betrayed but eventally I got over it and so do she and we both meet other people which we felt comfortable around and we went our seperated ways. I still speak to her every now and then but, our friendship not the same. I just wished I would have handle this situation differently because she was a very good friend to me and for me to stop talking to her just because she wanted to hang out with other people was stupid. What I'm trying to say is It's o.k. to meet and hang new people just don't forget that she is your friend. You don't have to cut her off completly.
2006-08-25 15:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be better if you two took like a little 'break' from eachother to see if you still want to be friends. but you could keep in touch with her so that you dont completely lose your friendship with her.
2006-08-25 14:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by um yea hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have that kind of probs too..... you want to make more frens while she is drifting away..... you need to tell to make her understand what is going on now....make a slow talk....just dont shoot on the high school thing.... its great to make new frens but losing a frenship is a wrong thing to happen in a high school.....take her to meet your new frens.... maybe she could understand.....
2006-08-25 14:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by spechugurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you want best of both worlds love!!
2006-08-25 14:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by xXxShortyYxXx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-08-25 14:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋