I turned 17 about two weeks ago and today was my last day at the bank as a summer worker. There's this guy there who introduced himself to me, he's always nice to me, and smiles at me, and he's the only guy there who didn't hug me goodbye. His name's Oneish and he has nice eyes and is good-looking. He works as a teller at the bank, which means he's already finished university and could be about 25 or over. He looked a bit suprised when I told him I was 17 (I always look older than my actual age) but he still spoke to me. I'm not saying I want to date the guy, I just want to get to know him. I thought about him a couple times over the last two weeks and I just want to talk to him to get to know him. Do you think I should call him or just let it go? If you think I should call him, what do I say to him, so that he understand I just want to get to know him?
2006-08-25 14:36:01 · 6 answers · asked by sky_raider16 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think he would have hugged me if one of his coworkers weren't around. But i'm not going to let him rape me or even give him the opportunity to...I have no intention of having sex until i'm married.
2006-08-25 14:45:54 · update #1
I would just let it go. He probably didn't hug you since he found out you were only 17 and he was obviously flirting with you a little and now just feels uncomfortable about the age thing. You know if he is 25 and you are still only 17 he could be considered a statutory rapist even if nothing ever goes on between the two of you. He is probably just being cautious. Just go by the bank once in a while to say hello and when you turn 18 then feel free to ask for more info to communicate with him. That way he is not uncomfortable about the age difference and yet you can keep him dangling on the line till you are of age to go after him without any legal issues that could turn a beautiful friendship into a nightmare by those who are busy-body enough to cause a disturbance about your being under age and he being 25!
2006-08-25 14:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by spidersbite999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ew, let it go. date guys your own age. if you pursue something with a 20-something year old, and it escalates, it's called statutory rape and he can be thrown in jail.
you say that you "just want to be friends" but that's not the tone that's coming across in your question. just let it go. you'll start school soon (if you haven't already) and will meet people in class that are closer to your own age and have the same interests in you.
besides, a guy who is 25, and hanging out with 17 year old girls, is a bit of a creep and a pedophile, actually. don't let him get that reputation.
I saw your edit, but that's not the point. You say you won't let him have sex with you, but unfortunately, you don't know the future. And statutory rape just means that a person over 18 had sex with someone under 18, regardless of consent. You are a minor, so in the law's eyes, you have no consent.
2006-08-25 21:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by pooh8402 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try exchanging emails and getting to know him. No sense in putting yourself or him into an uncomfortable position.
2006-08-25 21:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go, it seems he thinks you're maybe too young.
If he wanted to make a move he would have hugged you like everyone else.
2006-08-25 21:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think its a good idea to get involved with co-workers, but you can call him to like hang out or something
2006-08-25 21:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Exhibit A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let this one go
2006-08-25 21:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by Pookie's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋