Is it bad to want a baby now?

Question

I am 19 and halfway through college. I have a very good job and so does my fiance. We are building a house in the next few months.

Answer 1

You are so young. My daughter also wanted one too. All her friends were having them. But she swore to herself that she would wait till she finished nursing school,got a job as a nurse and built their house. And she did just that! She has been out of school a yr. and a half. Got a job as a nurse right away,and built their house almost a yr. ago. She is now due with her 1st child the end of oct. Though she will be working she will have the rest of her time to devote to her child instead of homework. Both school and babies require so much time. Please finish school so you don't miss any time with your baby. They grow so fast!

Answer 2

It is not bad at all to WANT a baby at any stage of life, but I don't think it would be good timing. I am 34 years old and have been around enough couples to know that even though you are engaged (and very happy I am sure!!!) there is a chance that the marriage won't happen...statistically speaking. Not to mention that you are still in college. Your best bet is to wait until you are through college and have been married a little while and then start a family. I can remember being 20 half way through college, getting married to the man of my dreams, quitting college 3/4 of the way through, getting pregnant and my husband leaving me for someone else when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant! Yikes. IF I had it to do all over again I sure would have waited and finished college. I think that college would be so hard with a child. You are young and have plenty of time...I on the other hand am 34 and wish I had it to do over again...sorta;-) ~God bless you~ and congrats on the engagement!!!

Answer 3

It is not BAD to want a baby at this time. You see your future taking shape, it looks good, and you want to add something more to it. You do seem to have a lot going on right now though. I would wait until at least one of these things is completed. Finish school, or the house. A baby will take up a lot of time and energy. It would be hard to juggle it all at once. Relationship, school, new home. You might find yourself getting very stressed out and going in to many different directions at once. It could lead to depression. I would wait awhile then try. Then you can give much more attention to your fiance and your baby.

Answer 4

Hunny I did it all backwards! Been with my husband 8 years, been married 2. We have a 4 year old and 9 mth old. Owned our house for 4.5 years. I am 27 and he is 30 now. Add it all up = it makes no sense. The point is, I wouldn't do it any other way. I am the happiest I have been in a long long time. Where I want to be at my job, as a mother and as a wife. If you want it, things will fall into place! They have a way of doing that!!! Good Luck!

Answer 5

I was a parent at 19 almost 20. It was a hard decision to do so and unless you have support from family AND friends(free babysitting for nights out, ect.) it is an extremely hard job but also one of the most rewarding. If you feel you are ready financially and emotionally as well, go for it! I do wish I had the chance to know why I wanted a baby that young first, I wouldn't have changed alot but I would have maybe had her later when I was more ready and more grownup.

Answer 6

would you be able to finish college if you got pregnant? who would look after the baby while you finish college ? you would be adding a lot of expense to your already stretched budget with hospital ,doctors ' expenses as well as baby clothes ,pram, food, nursery furniture etc not to mention baby sitting . day care fees .you have all the most wonderful experiences in front of you ,a wedding , a new house , and you need to have some time together to get to know each other even if you have been together for a long time ,it's different after the wedding .there's washing to do , ironing, housework , shopping, and if a baby were included in all that there would be midnight feeds , sick baby, sick you ,getting baby ready to go to day care early in the morning after a sleepless night with a teething baby .think about it , you would be falling asleep at college and would eventually leave before you graduate .there is loads of time for a baby , in the future .finish college ,like your friends and baby will have a more intelligent mommy

Answer 7

Wait till the house is done. I would wait and enjoy life then have a baby. I'm 19 yrs. old and 17 weeks pregnant. It's not really the same as it used to be. You have to make a lot of sacrifice in order to have a healthy baby and give up so many things. But I don't regret anything. I'm happy to have this wonderful baby in me and knowing it's mine. I'm blessed to have this baby and things happen for a reason. But no one can really answer this question but yourself. Good luck!

Answer 8

It seems like u've got ur life together. I'm glad ur working and attending school. The key is having ur priorities straight. I would wait until u and ur fiance are married first and then work on a family. Also finish college. It's good to be completely stable and have everything completed before starting a family. Why not spend some time w/ ur fiance (soon to be hubby) first? Enjoy ur time w/o a child, because having one will change everything, I'm sure. Good blessings! Keep up the good work.

Answer 9

Finish college first! I wanted one when I was 20. I was in LOVE with the guy I was with. Turns out, we ended up breaking up. I didn't have a baby until I was 31. And it was the perfect time. I'm not saying wait that long, I'm just saying wait until you have something accomplished in life first. Like college. Babies take up every single second of your time, it's possible to do it, but it will be very hard to finish college after you've had one.
Good luck with the tough decision.

Answer 10

The logical thing to do would be to wait. Have a very straight talk with your fiance and both of you should seriously search your hearts. There is so much of the future that children change. You also should consider how a child now will impact that child.