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My hsband of 9 years confided in me with out being asked to having slept with my closest b/f 3 times over a 3 year period,she confirmed this. She was having marital problems (serperated and living with us because she had had an affair with a co-worker!) My husband and I agreed we would try to work things out. Well, I called one of my other b/f's the next day, also married. I wanted to ask her if she had and got a "No Way!". That night when I got home there was a message on my machine. I knew in my gut who it was and why. Sure enough, she had slept with him once. I was passes out and they were "totally drunk". Basically, I have lost trust for 3 of the most important people in my life. I am crushed. I have no one to talk to, they have all betrayed me. BTW, the first one actually stole my first boyfriend that way. So this is twice for her. I have let both of them live w/ me when they were broke, rent free. The last affair was 3 years ago. Are any of them worth keeping? I love all 3...

2006-08-25 14:32:25 · 29 answers · asked by Lost 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

29 answers

Only keep them all if you want to continue to be hurt... that is just messed up and shows none of the three actually care about you at all. Good luck.

2006-08-25 14:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0 0

Well Sweetie They Obviosuly Cant Be Trusted :[. But If You Know Deeep In Your Heart That You Coould Find That Trust Somewhere..Somehow...Then Girl I Say Forgive Them..But If It Was Mee I Wouldnt Take Those "Friends" Back Because They Knew What They Were Doing When They Were With Your Husband...Obviously Your A Generous Person...Sooo I Think If You Love Your "Friends" That Much..You Should 4Give Them :]

2006-08-25 15:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by - Alexis. 6 · 0 0

Trust is something that is so hard to get back. Your 2 girl friends showed that they can not be trusted. By sleeping with your husband it shows that they don't love themselves so how can they love you as a friend that you deserve.
As far a your husband, do you really think he can be trusted? You know of 2 friends do you have any ideas about how many strangers there are out there? Or how many there will be in the future? There are a lot of good people out there, don't waste any more time, find happiness.

2006-08-25 15:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by aly_girl501 3 · 0 0

I'm sorry to say that unless u wanna get hurt, no, they arent worth keeping. Im sure personally, u already know the answer to this. Your friends backstabbed you behind your back when you did everything you could for them, and it's only after asking them did they told you the truth. How'd u know what else they would have done? The same applies to ur husband. Please, find someone else, someone loyal and sincere. There are lotsa ppl out there. And find better friends. Join some healthy organisations or church friends and stuff. It's not that hard, really. I wish you all the best!

2006-08-25 14:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Serendipity 2 · 0 0

Sorry for that triple slap in the face. You have been very betrayed. I can't think of 1 reason to keep any of them. Start planning what is best for you. I would dump those friends first, then see a lawyer and plan your divorce. Let your husband be served out of the blue, by then you will be ready for a whole new life. For now try not to dwell on whats happened. Your best revenge will be staying strong and focused on your life. To hell with all of them.

2006-08-25 14:49:11 · answer #5 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 0 0

First off, pick your heart up off the floor and reevaluate yourself. Do you think you are worthy of a healthy relationship with others? If so, walk away from the people that have hurt you. By allowing them to continue being a part of your life you are saying that it is ok to treat you like that. It will continue, not only the infidelity with your husband but your so-called friends will find other ways of hurting you because they can. Don't allow this to continue. Remember that you are worthy of love, respect, and honesty. You are a strong individual who also has a big heart, stop letting others walk all over it. It's good to be kind to others, but don't let them take advantage of you.

2006-08-25 14:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi R 2 · 0 0

I feel so sorry for you....Honey, Take the trash to the curb.All 3 bags! Hubby has cheated on you at lest 4 times,and that's the ones you know of. He more than likely cheated more. I know how crushed you must feel. The sooner you get rid of all 3 the faster you will heal. Stop having oochies for friends.

2006-08-25 14:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0 0

No...for someone who had an affair twice and ur friends shouldn't steal ur husband in the first place...but then 9 years...and he confided to u....it might be worth it to forgive ur husband if he treated u well all these years

2006-08-25 15:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0 0

Ah reality check, anyone who would steal from you, especially your boyfriend is not worth being called your best friend, worst yet she slept with your husband. I would say walk out the door and never look back, neither three especially that husband is worth your time. They are taking advantage of your good nature.

2006-08-25 14:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0 0

Do you really need to ask if they are worth keeping.......what for it to happen again and agian under your nose, none of them is worth keeping, the only thing to keep is your self respect and move on.......as for loving all 3,they obviously didnt feel that way about you if they could all betray you like they have

2006-08-29 08:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by purplepatty 2 · 0 0

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