How can I be more postive about things?

Question

Small and stupid things annoy me and cause me to lash out...i blame it alot on pms but it cant last all month. I am always told that I am negetive about everything!! How can I get some confiendence and get happy?

Answer 1

The first guy is certainly positive. I shall add something. Be positive about your negativity. Your sensitivity is not negative; it is better than senselessness. What you are driven to is to negate the negation. This is an inborn nature in humans, we are perfectionistic and sometimes we assign to ourselfs values that go beyond our present-time limitations. What you need to do is develop further and be negative BEFORE the reality you are negative about; acting in advance of that moment can save time and agony, the trouble may be made smaller, damage controlled.

Firstly you have all this abundance of energy which you have to find a happy expression for. As it is undirected and immediate, its negativity does not negate the negation, it is not positive. It could be positive, but you were not given the knowledge and life experiences to transform or direct your energies tranformance to positive experience, and hence your sense of personal powerlessness. But, it is not normal to experience one emotion continuously and not positive emotions as continuous experience; that is because we need these negative emotions to survive the dangers out there and to relate positively with other people about situations which energize those same emotions, i.e. so we may identify with each other in our internal experiences.

Perhaps what these others are complaining about in respect to you relating your feelings is that they practise a kind of kill the negative with identification of a positive, 'seeing the positive side for self or other in the negative context' or 'on the bright side' or something. While this is not a bad idea, it does not completely equip you for advanced action, but it is part of that thinking.

Secondly, basic physical excersize for your muscles is needed for transforming that negative expression of your energy to positive. This needs you for you to add to your life expression, so you need to schedual it in and push your limits a tiny bit in someway possibly everyday.

Learning your muscles to turn down the tension is good. If you tighten a muscle and then bit by bit let the tension go very slowly and evenly, you shall regain experience from it. As your senses sense in synchronesscity, every sense organ works together re-enforcing the validity of our belief for what is existence. This is our natural scientific activity, giving a many sensed understanding for each thing, more knowledge.

Thirdly, extend your knowledge of humanity from your lifes vantage point, psychology. So, study psychology.

Answer 2

THe first post was great advice.

I would like to add, that you are most likely lashing out becase there is something on your mind. You will need to come to grips with that. I know when im mad about something, every little thing all day makes me act pissed, and much liek you do when you snap.

When i get there i like to do whatever I can to laugh no matter how stupid it is. Then atleast for a short while I am uneffected by things normally annoying me.

Another thing, is each time you take the time to get mad, you are wasting tim on whatever you were doing, Then you will be creating the problems. IN other words SPAZZING OUT.

SAY NO TO DRUGS. Take pills only if you are thinking of killing, or dying. Better to smoke a joint and relax every few months then become some doctors experiment.

Answer 3

When I want to change something in my character I don't like,
I "act as if".

I have or had a problem conveying sympathy towards others when they had bad things happen to them.

So I acted as if I cared, some times I still do that. I may not really care about deaths in their family's; but I want to be a good friend, so I offer to help where I can, and keep my mouth shut when needed

Answer 4

Spend some time and focus your mind on things that annoy, and look at it " AFRESH " again and again, maintaining calm, as if for fun. Slowly the positive aspect of the things will start appearing.
And have no doubts whether each time you can afford to spend time to analyse each thing, because very soon, you will imbibe being positive and no 'sitting' will be required ( ..... a positive side of this exercise !)
Good luck.

Answer 5

I think people are born either pessimistic or optimistic and it is hard to change your nature. I think you can try to recondition yourself by aggressively changing your reaction to things. You might also try getting off caffeine and getting more sleep. You might need to be on a mild med for depression. Irritability is a sign of depression. If you don't think you are depressed, try to smile more often and have that positive response - it might be a matter of habit. Sounds like you are not only annoyed, but annoying yourself! I have struggled with anxiety and that also comes with irritability. I made myself behave like the me I wanted to be, it felt like acting in the beginning, but then it became my newly learned behavior and it helped tremendously.

Answer 6

Maybe you have a chemical imbalance and need to see a Dr. for some medication to correct it. It took me a long time to believe that meds could make a difference in managing those type of emotions but it does help.

Answer 7

just the fact that you asked the question is a step in the right direction now follow up and realize that maybe you cant control your emotions but you can manage them--now dont let enything control the inner you--especially anger

Answer 8

Read "The Power of Now", by Eckhart Tolle .