2006-08-25 14:14:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will get all kinds of advice but if you don't listen to any of it please listen to this. DON'T DO IT, THE BEST WAY TO F*CK UP A GOOD RELATIONSHIP IS TO GET MARRIED!
2006-08-25 14:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by meanblacktiger 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Scared? You mean the thought of having sex with the same woman for the rest of your life? Knowing that she will be there when you wake up, when you come home, and all the way until time for bed? That if you have kids, you a have a life long comittment that will never end, and any fun or free time you once enjoyed will be gone forever? That if you divorce, you lose at least half of everything you worked so hard for? That every woman you pass by will tempt more and more with each passing day? That she might let herself go once she is secure in a marriage? "Scared"? I'd be petrified!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-25 14:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every wedding has little glitches. Before the wedding, prepare your bride for this....Remind her to think of those as the memories rather than things that go wrong. We never remember what went right...only wrong. Make them positive and not stressful. Also, carry a hanky...your bride will probably have tears during the service. Your job is to pat the tears...she needs to look good in the photos. Good luck and have fun. The wedding will go by sooo fast.
2006-08-25 14:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sally M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are ABSOLUTELY clear on what each of you expects out of marriage and from each other. I don't care how petty it is, get it on the table. Appearance, cooking/cleaning duties, household finances, kids, holidays w/ which family, etc.
Everyone I know who's unhappily married assumed that things would be a certain way and never discussed everything. Now 100 pounds later and $20k broker, they're considering a divorce.
Talk talk talk; because getting a divorce SUCKS and F's your credit.
2006-08-25 14:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you scared of? Commitment? Financial instability? I was a little nervous, too, on my wedding day. Not that I married the wrong person. I was scared of passing out, stuttering during my vows, etc. I have never been one to be the center of attention.
2006-08-25 14:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you to have some uneasiness about making one of the most important decisions in your life. However, if you have those close friends who have experience in married life or an understanding finace or fiancee, to share your concerns with, you should not hesitate to support each other and to seek sound advice from close friends. In the end, it is said that "perfect love casts out all fear". You will overcome this fear if you really LOVE your betrothed..
2006-08-25 14:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is give a 110% to the marriage and except nothing back. Marriage is hard work. I've been married 25 years. Sometimes you have to grin'n'bear it,other time you bit your tongue. The hardest thing is to say you're sorry,when you're not. But in the end it pays off. Best Wishes.....
2006-08-25 14:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife will have a little trouble adjusting at first, but it will be worth it. Never go to bed angry. Never fight and get too personal about it - no name calling. Don't ever bring old issues up in a new argument. Love her as your most treasured item. No car, job, or even child should come between the two of you. Always honor your vows and never ever cheat.
2006-08-25 14:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry its normal to be scared its one of those process to see if you really love this person and if you are really ready for marriage. So just sit and think and your fears will go away. I am gettung married in april and im already scared so i can relate to you. Good Luck!!! :D
2006-08-25 14:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't be scared!!! marriage is a very good thing, i mean if you are ready to get married... if you are not ready then don't get married because it will end in disaster... just remember that you are going to be living with her now and you both have to get accustomed to each other and how each one of you live too... good luck i just got married 6 months ago and i love being married....
2006-08-25 14:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're just having wedding jitters. my husband told me when we got married, he felt this nervous "am i doing the right thing" sensation. but after we got married, he felt relaxed.
whenever you feel doubt, just remind yourself why you're marrying your fiance in the first place. you'll feel a lil better and a bit more confident.
congrats! and hope you have a great wedding!
2006-08-25 22:08:50 · answer #11 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋