What do I say???

Question

My little sister has pokies. She's 11. I have definately noticed that she has been having tons of discharge (i have to do the laundry every wednesday). I have noticed that she neds to start wearing a bra, and become aware that her period is coming closer each second.

I have tried telling her this, but she wont listen to me. i don't want to tell my mom because i want her to notice and be the mother, not me.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Well, it wouldn't hurt to mention it to your mother. Maybe she's a busy lady? And could possibly take her forever to notice...
I would just lightly bring it up in conversation and make sure she's got your attention. Then, hopefully she'll take care of her responsibilities.

Answer 2

You should confront your sister. Tell her that this is normal things that she will go through. Kind of "spy" on her so see if she is going to the bathroom a lot and not spending a lot of time in there. That means that she is checking to see if something is going on down there. That's what two of my daughters did a lot. And my other daughter just told me that she needed a panti-liner. As far as i'm concerned, i didn't MAKE my chidlren wear panti-liners when they had discharge, but if she feels uncomfortable, it is okay for her to wear a panti-liner while going through discharge.

You should confront your mom, or have her do laundry and say, eww what's that, when she's picking up your sisters underwear. Give her certain hints if you don't want to tell her. You should talk to your sister though. Tell her the things you went through . Comfort her!

Answer 3

She is not listening because she doesn't want to hear. maybe you can go out for a girl's day together, like lunch and shopping. See if it comes up. Maybe tell her about yourself when you were that age and what your worries were, how you dealt with it. Have a few laughs about yourself to make her comfortable. She just may be to freaked out to accept the changes in her body so she is trying to push it out of her mind. Let her know you are there for her if she needs you.

Answer 4

you can try bringing up the topic by:

Talking about your own experiences.
Asking about what she's learning in her health class.
Asking what she's heard from friends.
If your sister is hesitant to talk , You can then let your mom know what is going on and let her handle it from there. Here are some helpful tips for you or your mom

You can take the first step by leaving an informative book somewhere she can find to read on her own.

How can I help her feel good about starting her period?
Try to be positive: the idea that menstruation is a “curse” or something to dread is common in our society. You can help your sister/daughter by:

Talking about menstruation as a normal bodily function.
Remembering that her body will not necessarily behave like yours (if your own periods have been difficult, it's okay to say so).
Talking about and correcting myths and stereotypes she may have heard from friends or movies.
Teaching the men and boys in your family about this normal growing process.
Giving the men and boys in your family examples of respectful behaviour towards menstruating young women.

Girls often have many concerns about menstruation ranging from the "management" of their periods, to how this is going to change them and the way people relate to them. You can help your daughter by talking about:

how to track her menstrual cycle so she'll know when to expect a period;
how to deal with her menstrual flow, from pads to tampons and other options which are earth- and body-friendly, including all-cotton and/or organic tampons and pads, washable pads, and a rubber washable "cup" which fits inside the vagina–have some supplies on hand before she gets her first period, but also respect your daughter's choices for what she wants to use;
how to properly use and dispose of pads or tampons;
how to find and buy her own supplies at school or while she's out; and how to prevent Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS).
This is also a good time to reassure her that she will be able to maintain her interests after she starts her period (in sports, for instance).


You may want to find a way to mark the beginning of menstruation to recognise and celebrate this rite of passage your daughter's life. Almost every woman remembers how she got her first period. This is a good opportunity to create a positive memory for your daughter.

Ways of doing this could be as simple as:

Writing her a letter.
Offering her an activity of her choice.
Taking her out for lunch.
It can be very helpful to discuss what this milestone means for your daughter as she is growing into a woman. Try to be open to many different conversations about her changing body and the emotions that go with these changes. If she knows you are available to her - even if it makes either of you slightly uncomfortable - she will be able to come to you with other important questions.

If she has other valued women in her life, you might encourage her to talk with them as well.

After all wouldn't you rather have your sister hear it from you or your mom rather then a friend who may also be inexperienced when it comes to having a period also.

Answer 5

tell your mother. mother's aren't perfect and they don't always notice things. i was in the 3rd grade when i got my first period... my mom didn't notice... i ran and told her.. of course she thought that something was wrong... but it was normal for me-- she soon found out.. after my mom found out, she explained to me what it was, what i was suppose to do, and how i should act now that it has happened to me. i felt much better about it. your 11 year old sister is your mom's responsibility.... she knows that.... don't hide things from her... i promise you that she can reach your sister a lot better.. mother's knows best...

Answer 6

drop your mom some hints

your sis is uncomfortable about her period ask her her why? (she might even be uncomfotable to say why) but try to releax her on the sitution don't make getting your period a big deal

Answer 7

tell your mom. she's more experienced than you are. and your mom probably doesn't notice because hello! you're doing the laundry.

Answer 8

Have your mother do the laundry. Hint certain things to her. If she doesn't know, she can't act.