I gave up my job, my home, my family and friends to run off with him. He had a dream to retrain and do something other than the same job he had for 30 years. I begged him not to quit his job but I encouraged him to follow his dream. We got married and he got fired the very next month...he took out all his vested income and we lived on the money for over three years. I worked but he never took any of my money for "our bills". I paid for my clothes, hair, nails and expenses such as gas and classes and licensing etc...He was in debt deep and we refinanced our house to cover all his school debt and the mortgage...he took out extra to build a second bathroom...he gave that money to an attorney who wrote up a quit claim deed and divorce papers for me to sign. I couldn't beleive it! I thought he would come after me and beg me to forgive him...instead he calls me a gold digger and says he doesn't want to hear from me again? I barely had enough money to get back home...he let me take my
2006-08-25 13:49:54 · 36 answers · asked by waleah n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you should have contributed instead of using all your money on pampering yourself.
2006-08-25 13:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you loved him but I don't think I could have given up everything to run off with him. You job, home, family and friends? My family is worth more than that.
With the divorce papers - take it as a blessing. This guy sounds like a dud and you need to move on with your life. Start over and move on - that would be the best advice anyone could give you.
2006-08-25 15:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We wasn't exactly smart with what he did, and from what it sounds like, you weren't any better. It doesn't make sense to tell the guy not to quit his job but still follow his dream. He's gotta do one or the other. In result, he lost his job, you didn't push him hard enough to take your money for the bills, he is in huge debt, and now you guys are divorced. I can't say he is crazy because if I did, you would be too.
2006-08-25 13:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through hell 2. At least you know clearly that you have to divorce the bum. My problem is that I can't figure out what to do even though most people tell me to get a divorce as quickly as possible because of the damage we have done to each other.
Of course, some people say that you should never get a divorce but that is easy to say when you are not the person screaming in hell.
2006-08-25 13:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, he sounds like another victim of corporate greed and turnovers caused by a flawed employment system. At least he was trying to improve himself by doing something that he would be happier with rather than being miserable at his other job. Did you try to better yourself or just want to live off his new job money? At least he was able to cover himself for over 3yrs without working, unlike you who spent up all the money on yourself rather than paying the bills.
2006-08-25 14:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had a midlife crises at your expense. Be glad there are no children involved. You would have a much bigger problem than you have. You need an attorney it sounds illegal for him to take out a quick claims deed without your ok. He isn't worth your time so say goodbye.
2006-08-25 14:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is of course two sides to every story, but if what you are saying is accurate, it sounds like there is some kind of mental problem in which case you might want to talk to an attorney. If he is found incompetent, he can't make any legal decisions and that includes divorcing you.
2006-08-25 13:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are a lot if issues going on. I don't know his mental health but he sounds like he is depressed and has some real issues.
I wonder if he played you. I don't understand enough to comment.
I do wish you the very best and as hard as it is sometimes we just don't get all the answers.
2006-08-25 14:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was. All he wanted was for you to pay for him by putting on a show on how pathetic he was. But you never really pay for him, so now he has to turn to the divorce papers since he didn't achieve his objective. It's time for him to abandon ship.
2006-08-25 13:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by CherryBam.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life sucks . but at least he's gone. he didnt know what he wanted out of life and when he couldnt figure it out it sounds like he used you as his reason why everything went wrong. I would recommend sharing the finances more in the future
2006-08-25 13:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be more to this . if he re-trained then got fired lived off of savings for 3 yrs. sounds to he like he is scared of something . someting is not right in demarck
2006-08-25 13:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋