bible says that if you look at another woman in a lustful way you are already commiting adultry in your heart.
2006-08-25 14:15:02
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answered by joe_smo_red 5
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It's nothing at all like cheating if they're going home to their wives. There are a few instances where I as a wife would take issue with this:
1- He's spending money we don't have
2- He'd rather be there than home with the family
3- See above, and it's taking it's toll on the kids/our relationship
4- He's actually GETTING somewhere with a dancer
5- He's getting tanked there and then driving himself and/or others home
If he goes once a week with the guys just for ha-has and he has the cash to do it I don't give a fat rat's. It is not cheating. Cheating is when you have a relationship with someone. Having been a bartender at a club, I know for a fact that a) half the girls are lesbians and b) even the ones who are straight are NOT interested in the clients as people. A guy is a big, walking wallet once he crosses that threshold. It's funny how some ladies get all bent out of shape because they think that women are being objectified and taken advantage of in clubs, when in fact the men are the ones who are seen as less than people. The guys look up to the girls as sex goddesses, throw cash at them like crazy and get nothing at all in return. The girls go out and dance, get a great workout and come home with hundreds of tax-free dollars in their pockets. Not a bad deal when you think about it.
2006-08-25 14:27:36
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answered by Irish Red 4
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I don't like it and I don't get it.
I get that it's supposed to be a bonding thing and it's not about the strippers (what ever), but I just can't agree with someone going often.
It just seems like if a guy goes often, then he's not happy in his relationship and is looking for something more. Plus a place locally got busted, because the women were having sex in the back rooms, so I always wonder about what really goes on in strip clubs.
2006-08-25 14:33:22
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answered by LifesAMystery 3
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I've been married to my husband for 4 years and he has never gone to strip clubs or even looked at or flirted with other women if my husband was like that I wouldn't want to be with him I don't believe in strip clubs I believe your body is a private thing and it's only for your spouse to see and enjoy I think if a man goes out to strip clubs it is cheating because he's looking at other women and he's enjoying another woman's company when your married your suppose to love the one your with and want the only one your with that is the thing called commitment and if a man is that way into strip clubs and stuff like that then he had no right in the 1st place to get married
2006-08-25 14:11:36
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answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3
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Personally I think it's wrong. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to be out at strip clubs and I doubt he would be okay with me watching guys strip too. I think strip clubs make people think it's okay to sell your body, and it makes the men or women strippers think their body is their only asset. Chances are if the men are out at the strip clubs their wives are probably at home wishing they had more sex but they're probably too overworked because their husbands are out at the strip clubs to actually have sex! If men are reading this get a babysitter for a night and take your wife to a hotel for the night, without kids or just the familarity of your own bed things might be more exciting!
2006-08-25 13:56:01
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answered by Beccawho 3
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No. It's not okay. Strip clubs shouldnt' exist in the first place. They objectify women and make them out to be men's playthings...
But in the context of a marriage--sheesh. People are so dumb. If you have a wife who isn't gorging herself on Ben and Jerry's every night, who tries to be good to their husband, is faithful, and is still having sex with her husband, what on earth does he need a strip club for? It's only going to ruin any joy that these women have in their marriages. Tell these husband friends of yours to put a pole in their bedroom for their wife to dance on if it's the only way they can get off. Otherwise, it's just wrong.
2006-08-25 14:50:27
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answered by Crystal B 3
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Depends on how "frequent" you're talkin'. My husband goes with his buddies every now and then, and he is the only one who doesn't lie to his wife about where he is going (or maybe he does and they're really going to gay bars or something). The two of us actually went to a strip club together once.
2006-08-25 13:55:55
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answered by Anonymous
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I think any man in a long term relationship should not attend strip clubs. Too many things go on behind the scenes, if you know what I mean.
2006-08-25 14:40:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I'd say no at this point. Almost 11 years into marriage, I've gotten used to the fact that my husband wasn't a fan of the places. If he started now, I'd immediately look at myself to see what was wrong with me.
When I was 18-25....no I wouldn't have cared...at that point I had a what's good for him is good for me attitude and would have been at a male strip club in a heartbeat. Or who knows what...
But, not now....
2006-08-25 13:59:31
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answered by cypress9silver 2
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I don't approve of it at all!!! It may not be cheating physically, but it is mentally. I hate the idea that men would rather go and piss away money at a nasty "ewww" than stay at home making their wives happy. When my husband's co-workers invite him to the strip club, he tells them no. Do what works for me. I always give him a lap dance and TOTAL control in the bedroom. We both ejoy that and it keeps him away from Herpesville!!!!
2006-08-25 14:04:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Strip clubs are Bad news. There is nothing good that goes on in those places! Did you see Tira Banks show on strip clubs! Shocking!!! I believe No respectable single much less married man should go to those places!!
2006-08-25 14:00:29
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answered by Teresa B 1
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