My mother doesn't like my fiance?

Question

My boyfriend proposed me and my mom gave as a blessing but later she told me that she only acepts him because of me. She doesn't like him and she doesn't want to see him in her house. I don't know what to do? We were planning to have wedding in my hometowne where my parents live. I didn't tell anything to my fiance. What should I do in this situation? Will our reliationship surrvive?

Answer 1

I need to know why she doesn't like him. But usually dislike between inlaws causes serious issues.

Answer 2

You don't say why she doesn't like him! If she is controlling and not fairly judging him than I would ask her to try and get to know him.
As far as your Fiance goes, all I can say is my feet don't walk where my husband isn't welcomed period.
If you have children your problem could multiply.
I would talk to you Mom ask her what the problem is and if she is truly willing to get to know and accept your Fiance, unless there is a justified reason for her dislike then you must decide only this.
Do you love him no matter what all will honor him and accept no less? Or not?
If you won't fully honor him then you definitely shouldn't marry him. This of course is if your Mom is unjustified in her feelings!
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Your mom may have a million reasons not to like him, but ask her why she doesn't like him. However, this will be hard not to get mad because you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him. You love both your mom and your fiance so I would just split time equally between them or just try to deal with the situation at hand. If you love him and your mom was respectful enough to give her blessing then she wants you to be happy. If you ever need more advice please let me know. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

You are leaving out information here. There is a reason your mother said that. You'd do well to earnestly examine it before you say, "I do." There is a marriage after a wedding. It is easier to get into than to get out of once you do. Think about your mother's reason. I bet you are focusing on all the attention, white gown, and being queen for a day when you will be stuck for a life time with someone who raises serious doubt with the woman who birthed, loved, nurtured and raised you. PAY ATTENTION.

Answer 5

I know where you are coming from I'm in the same boat I'm not liked as well but i love this girl so much that just because her mom doesn't like me, you can't let any thing get between you two your mom will came around sooner or later your relationship will be fine just remember that it's you who s getting married not her good luck hope every thing works out

Answer 6

I know you love this guy but nothing good comes out of any situation when a parent doesn't like the finance... I wouldn't get married until this issue is resolved.
Think about how awkward family gatherings can be since they don't get a long. All I can say is drama...

Answer 7

your going to have to tell your mom that you are grown (i assume) and that this is your choice and if she doesn't want your soon to be husband in her home then you won't be visiting as well. Take up for your man, if you love him. Now with that said it changes everything if your mom has a good reason for not liking your fiance, in this case you will need to talk to your fiance about the problems and if he has done something then maybe he should apologize to your mother for what he has done.
It's one or the other....eighter your fiance has done something that your mom hasn't forgiven him for, (and that includes cheating on you or not treating you right) OR your mom is trying to have control over you.

Answer 8

dont let the way your mother feels about him get you down., because remember he is taking away her little girl and these are normal feelings but also talk to her and tell her how much you really care about him and if she dont like it oh well.. But also dont turn your mother away for some man that you may have only know for a while. You never know these days you may need to come back home to Mommy after all

Answer 9

Your choice of a husband is just that....YOURS to make. Your marriage will survive as long as you recognize that your husband comes before your mother and NEVER tell her anything negative about him or it'll come back to haunt you (speaking from experience here). Good Luck to you and your future husband!

PS...you can tell your mom thanks for loving you so much and only wanting the best for you, but that you are a grown woman and you know what you need, want and desire and that's your boyfriend.

Answer 10

So what if your mother does not like your fiance. You both were planning a wedding (irrespective of the place where it was going to be).Right ? You love him. Right ? He loves you.Right? Than to hell with your mom's views/feelings about him.Maybe after marriage things will improve and she will start to like him. If the relationship is good, strong than it will survive all odds.(even moms/dads/brothers......)

Answer 11

This is your mother's loss, not yours. Your fiance is whom you are going to spend the rest of your life with - not your mother.

You may ask her "why she doesn't like him" Specifics mom, what? She is entitled to her feelings, and you can't change that. Let her know you "respect her feelings" and at the same time she has to "accept that you love him and this is whom you plan to spend the rest of your life with".

Will it be easy - if you remember first and foremost the love between you and your fiance - you should be okay. But expect your mother to meddle. Good Luck.