Why do people snub me at work?.?

Question

I am a good person. Go beyond the call of duty. But still seem to get the butt end of deals at work. Why is this? I am a christian and never say those four letter words, lie, steal, cheat, or even gossip. I am not snobbish. I do all that is asked of me very flexable and never ask why. I just do it. I smile at everyone. Do I need to be more hateful or what? Help me. :(

Answer 1

Have you ever thought of starting your own business? That might be exactly what GOD is telling you. I know I have felt the same way in the past and I decided to do something about it. If you work for someone else you will always work harder than you think you should. Why let someone else profit from your hard work. Why not have you profit from your hardwork and determination. Go for it. Find something you like and start your own business Today :)

Answer 2

People can be cynical and bitter, and try to cover it with humor. When they work or deal with someone who's always chipper, they might snub the chipper person, thinking "why are they always so happy, like nothing's wrong in their life?"

I am assuming that you're not trying to "force" Christianity on your coworkers, though you did make a point in your post that you are a Christian.

You are going above and beyond at work, which the more jaded employees don't do. They might, deep down, feel threatened. How about finding out more about them? People love it when others are interested in them. And also perhaps showing some of your own vulnerabilities. They might just think that you are too "perfect". And don't be afraid to say "no" if your boss is asking too much.

Answer 3

There are so many possible reasons.

For instance, I work with a woman who is unbelievably nice. However, she doesn't seem to understand that she isn't my supervisor, and doesn't understand why sometimes I just want to smack her when she tries to tell me how to do my job (which is the same as hers). So be sure to evaluate your conduct and see how you interact with others. Sometimes people who are too nice can rub people the wrong way.

Are you the new person? Sometimes it takes awhile to integrate yourself into a closed community like a workplace.

And you never know...you may just have gotten the lousy end of the deal by getting a bunch of crappy coworkers. Sometimes people will hate you for no reason, and there is absolutely no way to change their minds.

Don't try to change yourself to be hateful. This will only cause tension and possibly alienate your coworkers. Be yourself, but be conscious of how you interact with others and avoid being bossy, or critical, or a know-it-all. And you can always look for another place to work.

Answer 4

To be honest, people who talk about being a good Christian all the time are a big turn off, not to mention that the frequent mentioning of it means they are not.

That said, If you are simply pleasant and diligent, it could be the others are jealous because you make them look bad. Don't concern yourself too much--you aren't there to socialize and make friends.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, you have to be able to "categorize" people in order to get along with them. (By this I certainly don't mean stereotyping, however.)
For example: You've said you are a good Christian. Well, don't talk religion around persons x and y who are the atheist and the agnostic at work. They don't want to hear about your Sunday school teaching or your discussions with the parson. That doesn't mean though that they won't or don't have concerns about moral and ethical treatment of people and so on.
At first just be a listener. See what each person volunteers about himself / herself. Billy Bob may save for his big fishing vacation every summer. Susy Q. may think Billy Bob's just a big ol' murderer for what he does to those poor little ol' (tasty) fishies. (So don't tell her about your big hog hunts back home each fall.) Maude may only want to bore everyone to tears with her talk of her grandkids. You then have to tailor "who you are" to suit each of them. Many people have that "This is who I am; take it or leave it" kind of attitude. But you can't really do that. You have to relate to them on their terms until they get to liking you. Then you can ease up a bit on the pretense and just be yourself.
Once you get to know some of them, if anyone seems to slight you, just ask one of the others, "What's with so and so? Did I do something wrong?"

Answer 6

you answered you own question. Your a Christian. And most people think that Christians are self righteous know it all. they think your a show off. and that you think your better than them.
Do let them stop you from doing what is right. So long as your in God will than let Jesus take care of them. Its not easy being a Christian. I feel the same way some times. Don't let it get to you.

Answer 7

Why don't you ask one of them? There may be some horrid gossip going around about you that is totally untrue. Pick out the most friendly-looking co-worker, and just ask them why nobody seems to like you. What have you got to lose? Invest yourself in this. Maybe it's just that you seem disinterested and uninvolved.

Answer 8

I'm sorry you have this feeling. I sometimes feel this way too - and I've decided that I just work in the wrong industry or type of company. I feel like I'm wearing a purple suit sometimes. For me, I'm not sure I've found my fit, found my mission.

Is that possibly the case for you? Would a different kind of organization or career be better for you?

Answer 9

It's just a matter of being more friendly. Spending time with people, talking, making jokes, etc.

It's not enough to be a good worker anymore. Sadly, it's a job requirement that you have to kiss *** too, in order to get anywhere.

Answer 10

Religion can be a great thing, but if you mention it at work it might be annoying to some people. Unless you work for an organization that has a religious affiliation anyway.
Keep being nice.