when i was 10 i had a baby by my dad im now 36 have 3 kids should i try to find her.
2006-08-25 13:33:19 · 7 answers · asked by imslipperynwet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes my other kids know about her and has told me to try and find her but what will i tell her hi im your mom and your sister
2006-08-25 14:14:56 · update #1
I think that right now you are holding this baby in your heart with love. I'm sure you are wondering a lot of thoughts about her, such as what does she look like, where is she, is she ok, and who are her parents. But at this point the feeling and questioning is still with the love in your heart.
Even though your children know of this as you have told them, at this point there is no connection in your children's eyes. If you search for this baby and find her, I'm sure of the joyous reunion, but what then? How will you continue to feel looking at this child knowing how she was conceived? And what of your children who know the same. Can you guarantee that they will not feel resentment towards this child due to knowing the information you have told them or jealously that may come about?
Also what if this child only knows that she was adopted. Will you be the one to tell her who her father really is? What if it leaks out? Will you take that chance on crushing her world?
I can only hope that you have really thought this through fully and from all sides, including through your children's eyes. If something should go wrong, the damage that it would do would be totally Unrepairable to all involved.
Good luck in your decision, as it is a very difficult one.
2006-08-25 15:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the feelings about her conception. How would it make her feel to know that she is a child of incest. These are things you should consider b4 finding ur child. I know as a parent you would want to see her , however under those circumstances it could be traumatizing. I wish luck and healing for you and you children.
2006-08-25 14:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy shamolies! I would say yes. I'd want to know my mom if I were her.
2006-08-25 13:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your kids know about her?
do you want to find her?
if you are asking the question - you probably should
2006-08-25 13:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it would be a nice gesture and chances are it would be much appreciated. The fact that you're asking must mean something.
2006-08-25 13:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I'm sure she is curious to know you
good luck
2006-08-25 13:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah go ahead it will be cool
2006-08-25 13:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋