Regarding the Heavenly Father's Love..serious answers from Christians only.?

Question

Please pray about the following and answer only as the Holy Spirit and your heart directs you. Thanks and please pray for insight for others as God leads them in a message of direction/encouragement.

How do you help someone understand God the Father's love for them if they have had messages of a very harsh judgmental God,
been frightened by this and hell, negative tapes. You are also told they have had a very negative & cold relationship with their earthly dad and mother ever since they can remember...and also other adult males have treated them unkindly even though family or said sure, I love you....but see or have little emotional, physical, or spiritual ties.

Ever encountered this by someone or worked thru it yourself with God's help and the support/prayers of another? What did you say to help them begin to understand or how did you get thru it by personal experience?

Thanks for praying and giving your time.

Answer 1

I grew up feeling unloved, used and abused by my parents. The worst, for me, was the feeling of not being loved. Of never measuring up. Never being good enough. From the vantage point of being an adult (I'm 53) I now know that my parents did the best job they could do given how they, themselves, were raised. It took a long time and a lot of pain to come to that conclusion.

My parents always made sure we went to church, So, I grew up knowing God loved me, but not feeling as if He did.

I was fortunate to have an older sister (by 12 years) who loved me very much. She gave me the unconditional love that I should have received from my parents. But I didn't see that until is was well into my 30s. All I knew was that I grew up believing she was perfect and I could never hope to measure up.

Though there have been times in my life when I felt like God had abandoned me, I grew to understand that it was I who had moved away, not Him. I learned, as a young child, the importance of prayer. For years I mostly prayed the formalized prayers I learned in the Catholic church and religious education. And I believed I had to go to confession to talk to God about my sins. Gradually He got through to me that I could talk to Him about anything and everything. What a relief to be able to take the big and small things in my life to Him in prayer. Reading the Bible and other Christian books has helped to better understand how to make God a part of every part of my life. That He truly cares about all of it. He even knows how many hairs I have on my head. He will always take care of my needs because I am more important than the flowers of the field, and they are wondrously arrayed. I remember that He knows when the smallest sparrow falls to earth, and so He cares about me. And the scripture I hold closest to my heart is John 3:16~For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son. That whoever believes in Him will not die, but will have everlasting life!

When we surround ourselves with reminders of His awesome love it is easier to believe that He does love us. That the events of our childhood can only shape our adult lives if we continue to let them. If we continue to let them have power over us. It's a choice. I find that prayer, or having a conversation with God, has helped me to gradually realize just how much He loves me. And, I have found that I love Him!

Journaling is another tool I have used to sort through the trials of my life. It's like talking to another person. And you can write in a journal when there is no one to talk to.

I've been through a very deep depression and break-down. And I know, with great certainty, that God is the REASON I am here today. That He was, and is, the Light in my life. The Light at the end of the tunnel.

Though I love the old hymns, I find greater joy in contemporary Christian music. In fact, I rarely listen to secular music anymore because the Christian music lifts me up; reminding me of God's infinite love, and the loving sacrifice of our LORD, Jesus Christ.

My journey has been long, painful, joyful, sorrowful, uplifting, fearful, freeing, ugly, beautiful ... And I wouldn't change a step. Each of the things I have been through in my life have served to shape me into the woman I am today. I love my God! And He loves me! I am secure in His love.

Answer 2

I understand that many people didn't have good father's so the thought of a Heavenly Father isn't all that good of a thought for
them.
I am sorry if your friend gets negative comments from some mislead Christians.

How about you take out the word Father and talk to your friend about the Creator Or the Higher Power. Explain that if this God created the universe and all the amazing things, then he is full of goodness and love. If the person says....then why is there bad things in the world? It is becasue we are here with a free choice and because of our choices as the world we have bad things happen. It is our faith in the Creator that connects us to the hope of a life of peace in eternity. And meanwhile on earth our Heavenly Life Savior helps us along our way.

I will pray

Answer 3

Alot of "Christians" but not all who knows God intimately! Father God is e same yesterday, today and tomor! Read the bible everyday as it cleanses your mind n make you know God more. Humans are human and are not prefect but growing from glory to glory. So forgive n forget them. Hell is real but thats for those are are non chirstians. Saints go heaven! Father God is love.. experience Him in a deeper way. pray more in tongues which is the gift of the holy spirit as it will build up ur spirit man. Yes, a strong local church which prays strongly in tongues will help u to grow. They norm has a care/cell grps, your spiritual family, to pray, support, encourage one another! God bless..

Answer 4

i will't think of why any Christian might say that "Heavenly Father" is incorrect. it particularly is an exceedingly elementary call. The extra elementary situation is people who've a situation with calling God "Heavenly mom" in spite of the shown fact that I, individually, have not any situation with that call, the two.

Answer 5

The best way I have found is to demonstrate that love, live it, and when they see it with their own eyes, they will come to believe. Once they see that it is possible, it becomes a rush like a starving man to a banquet. All people need love, and no love is greater than God's love for us., when they see it, when we who are believers show it to them, they will accept it. I speak from experience. At first they will snipe, in fear, trying to protect themselves from getting hurt yet again, but love can't be overcome, it breaks down all reisitance. See 1 Cor 13.

Answer 6

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 7

Let them know that god has been loving and taking care of them all of there life. through all of there heart ache and struggle our heavily father has been there for them. all thing are possible if you believe in Jesus Christ our savior. If mama and daddy were not as supported as you through they should be don't hold resentment toward them pray for them asked God to show you the way. Remember God love you and will continue to take care of you and wash away all of your problems

Answer 8

You need to pray with them, and show them the power of prayer. You need to show the Gospel of Mark and study it with them so they understand what god has given us and why we are on this earth...... Take them somewhere awesome, like the beach and tell them that only God could crate something this spectacular.

Answer 9

Take this person to church- it can do amazing things