I myself am a foster kid and it surprises people. what do people generally think about foster kids? We're not bad...it's our parents who are bad. It's dumb to judge a kid...just cause he/she is a foster kid.
2006-08-25 13:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by The_Resa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not in a really bad situation. my mom died and my blood dad...well...where ever is he....
my guardian, who is my little half sisters dad, is the best!! I'm glad people don't see foster kids as bad kids...but some are though...but it really has to do with their parents. I myself am not a bad kid...most teacher/grown-up admire how well behaved and mature I am.
2006-08-25 13:43:35 · update #1
I'm in the process of becoming a foster parent.
There's such a stigma attached to foster parenting and foster kids both..
- the kids are bad - the parents are bad -
I hate the consensus tendency to believe that foster parents are in it for the money..it makes it difficult for the majority of us who aren't - who have a genuine want to be a positive influence in a kids life when they really need it. I hate the myth that all foster kids are awful misplaced kids who can't keep a home..
In my becoming a foster parent I've met alot of kids in foster care - and they've all been great kids..
There's so much uncertainty about the whole system, people don't know what to think about the issue of foster care or the people involved.
Well adjusted kids in foster care talking about their experience in forums such as this can alleviate some of that uncertainty and doubt - so keep it up. Keep your head up - don't let anyone judge you, don't let them guess..tell them who you are.
2006-08-26 03:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by jtxn170 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often wonder if there are still orphanages - at least here in the US. I've never seen foster kids as being corrupt. One big questions I have is why are some foster kids treated so horribly, molested, abused and even killed. It's sad when foster parents don't make that commitment to be the protector, provider, and the comforter for these kids that are already living a life of hell! You're not a inferior person for being a foster child, don't ever let someone consume your feeling to that. ;)
2006-08-25 20:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by daledeloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think foster kids got the raw end of the deal. I think a lot of kids with out caring parents have a real tough time. and from your question and the fact that you think you are not bad is great and I admire that you are probably a strong person but... foster kids are like all other people and there are good and bad in all kinds of people. so we cant really say foster kids are good kids and we cant say foster kids are bad. I do believe there are no bad kids only bad parents. lots of love to ya kiddo. take care of yourself and love yourself, because foster or not no one else is going to do that for you.. I think your a good person. although I didnt have much to go on.
2006-08-25 20:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many myths exist about Foster kids that are really sad. I wish the world could understand what you go through going up. I look forward to adopting a FK in the coming years. If you have the love in your heart for humanity, I am not sure why you would not give a child a strong stable home they deserve.
2006-08-25 20:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by O Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iMost foster kids have a natural problem with abandonment because of there biological parents abandoning them. Your right it not the foster child fault that he or she is in foster care. A lot of foster kids act out because of there real parents not being in the picture and this makes the foster parent job a nightmare.
Ex-foster parent
2006-08-25 20:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the cliche says: ya gotta lov 'em.
I mean that. You deserve to be treated as well as anyone else, and in many cases, especially as you get older, most people won't even know or be concerned about it.
You may go to work in another city and no one will know if you don't choose to tell them.
BTW, although I like to get points, obviously, you should give them to CatCanScratch since she is suffering being separated from her kids.
2006-08-25 20:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have taken in forster children and adopted them. Their biological children myself included love them. When I introduce them to people I say these are my sister not my adopted sisters. My parents love children and always will they usually forster children with problems. If I could I would forster as many children as I could. Most of these children only need someone to be consistent and love them. I would never judge you by what your parents do or have done. Keep your chin up.
2006-08-25 20:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is it like??? The state took away my kids away almost a month ago....they seem OK when I see them but it feels like I am dying inside with them not here
2006-08-25 20:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋