Sometimes I feel like my friends are leaving me out. Like tonight they all said they'll tell me what the plans are for tonight but none of them has gotten back to me. I tried calling them and none of them are answering. This has been going on for weeks and im sick and tired of it...how can i confront them about it?
2006-08-25 13:09:16 · 4 answers · asked by qtgirliexox008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best policy when dealing with friendships is straightforwardness. You have an issue, take it to them and let them know how you feel! Tell them that you feel that they're leaving you out, and if there's a reason why, you want to know what it is. Maybe you unknowingly did something to make them feel uneasy around you, but they've been too afraid to confront YOU about it. The best thing is to go to them and get the air cleared so you know whether it's worth waiting around for the calls, or if you should gather up a new group of friends.
Open honesty is always the best policy, and if they won't afford you that courtesy, then maybe you should reconsider the value of their friendship.
2006-08-25 13:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can confront them, and I'm not saying you shouldn't, but if this has been going on for weeks, I would say they're intentionally trying to mess with your head. They can see that their behavior is bugging you, and for that reason, they keep it up. It gives them a sense of power.
I was in a very similar situation myself in high school. The hard part is, you can't make them change their behavior. That decision is out of your hands--even though it's creating a really sucky situation for you. What you CAN do, and make no mistake, it's really hard, is take back the power in this situation by walking away. They may be making up the rules of the game, but you do not have to play it. You really don't!
If you don't like thee way they treat you (or other people), you can just decide not to be in contact--for a while, or for good. It's hard to walk away from your friends, but if these "friends" are getting a rise out of making you feel bad--which is what it sounds like to me--you're better off searching out different ones.
But sometimes people acting stupid do actually come around in the end, when they see you aren't affected by what they're doing. There's a chance! In your place, I wouldn't confront them--but I would put the friendship(s) on hold. Friendship is a 2-way street: if it's not working for you, it's just not working. Best of luck!!
2006-08-25 20:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friends,Honey! I am sorry to tell you,but they are excluding you on purpose.Too cowardly to tell you they think you are uncool.
2006-08-25 20:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are sick and tired of you
2006-08-25 20:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋