Im 15 and have been in a relationship for a year now. Im not sure whether we should take it to the next step. I feel im ready but still a little doubtful. I think its just nevousness but I want to make the right decision. I know he wouldnt have a problem with it because he has mentioned it in the past and respected my answer towards it but can anyone share a similar experience or give me any suggestions on what i should do?
2006-08-25 13:00:26 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are asking the question, the answer is no.
2006-08-25 13:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by J B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you are impatient im sure. But thats normal. Sex is suppose to be something special, with the one true love that you will spend the rest of your life with, Now i realize that times have changed, but still, even the most oldest morals are still good today though. You need to wait for a bit and do this when you are totally sure that this is the one. Waiting and Abstenance is still a great thing to do. It will happen when you are ready and you KNOW you are ready. Dont do this just to keep up with the crowd, you take care of you, and itll all come to pass soon enough. Dont rush your life, enjoy being a 15 year old, you are entering the most exciting times of your life, high school! Good Luck.
2006-08-25 13:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity at 15 and I have regretted it my whole life. Please do not do it to please anyone else. Chances are that if you are having doubts then you are not ready. It sounds like your boyfriend is a decent guy and if he respects that you are not ready then he is a keeper, but if he is pressuring you call it quits. This will not be the only guy you will ever have a relationship with, even if it seems so now. If you do however choose to have sex, please use protection. Not only for birth control but also for protection against STDs. You sound like a very smart girl and you deserve to make the decisions that are best for you, take awhile to think about it and play it smart, either way you decide.
2006-08-25 13:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 15 when i lost my virginity, and i am 23 now. WAIT!!!! if i could go back in time i so would of waited. I did "love" my first, but as time goes on u will have a new perception of what love really is and u won't feel the same. only u can make the decision but even though it might b hard to wait trust me u'll be glad u did
2006-08-25 13:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure and have to ask you probably are not ready to have sex yet. most people will tell you that you need to wait and you will be able too tell when you are ready. sometimes that is true. just don't let anyone including him influence your decision. You will eventually know when its right. And you always remeber your furst. If you do decide to do it just make sure you are carefull and make your own decision based on what you feel. try talking to a close friend or your mom. Sometimes I wish I had waited but I do not regret it.
2006-08-25 13:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by flaka_817_26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i too thought i was ready my first time.
like you i was 15 also.
i thought i loved this guy for 2 years.
we weren't dating..but we still did other things.
i never really found out if he had the same feelings for me..but i figured if i had sex with him..things would become stronger.
well something unexpected happened..and i found out he was secretly dating my best friend and they were also having sex.
so i no longer talk to this guy.
i would say wait until youre a little older..because then youll know for sure when youre ready and youll know and trust the guy alot more.
because i know now that i regret doing what i did..and wish i would've waited.
but youre still young..and still have a lot of life to experience.
i strongly suggest waiting...but its your call.
good luck.
2006-08-25 13:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by cuteycourt719 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how you know when you're ready because you know. plus you said you're a little doubtful why not wait. if you do proceed, use protection no matter what. its too many things out there. for instance, i knew i wasn't ready to have sex but did and ended up with a broken heart because the guy just wanted sex but i didn't even listen to my heart. never go against the heart.
2006-08-25 13:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think JB answered this one the best.
If you are asking the question then the answer is NO.
I am 33 and have been through this a long long time ago (and was dumped buy a girl because i wouldn't do it) and found that if your not ready....... your not ready. and im a bloke (guy for any americans out there!)
So dont fret my dear!
2006-08-25 13:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by adamjordanevans2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you're feeling doubtful, the answer is no. You will know when you are ready. Don't push it though. 15 is still so young. When you do decide to have sex, use a condom!!
2006-08-25 13:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Me :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what state you live in you might want to wait til you are 16 because there are laws saying when a person is legally able to consent to having sex.
2006-08-25 13:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by leespitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can tell you is the most every other woman who has had sex at your age has regretted it later on in life and wished that she had waited until she was old enough to have a deep meaningful mature adult relationship prior to having sex.
2006-08-25 13:05:33 · answer #11 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋