My husband and I would like children, but I'm not able to carry one because of a medical condition. We think about saving $45,000 for surrogacy, but, if for some reason, the gestational surrogate can't conceive with our egg and sperm, then we would have $45K go down the toilet. Is it WORTH the try to have a biological or would you just adopt and not care if it's related to you or not?
2006-08-25 12:47:32 · 19 answers · asked by Tilly123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'd adopt. i don't know how much cheaper that is, but whatever the money left over is you can put into bonds or a CD or something and by the time your child reaches college, you'll have some money to help out
:)
good luck, whatever you choose
2006-08-25 12:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by al 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tough call. On the one hand, you could adopt and use the remainder of the money to secure the child a spot in college. Or, you could take the chance and successfully have a child conceived. That risk is too serious of a question to let the general public decide. But, my best answer would be to adopt and then you can be 100% sure that the child you raise will not only have a good future and a loving family, but also would be given the chance at life instead of being shoved from shelter to shelter or whatever the case would be if the child was not adopted. There is nothing more precious than raising a baby to adulthood. So, go with your heart. Would you still adopt if the surrogate did not work out? I think you and your husband should definitely talk with a counselor about this before you make a decision. This is about raising a child into this world. Whatever you decide, the child will always be yours to love. Good luck and I have said a prayer for you to come to a solid decision. I hope you don't mind.
2006-08-25 13:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would not care whether the child was mine biologically or not. I have adopted two of my kids and I would adopt more if I could, ya know? Kids are kids and we love them unconditionally, at least that is what we should do. If you have the ability to come up with that kind of money and aren't worried about it then so be it. But I don't think adoption is something to give up on, not one bit. Try foster parenting for awhile even, what a way to give you a head start into parenting. Best wishes =)
2006-08-25 12:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure you are at peace with yourself before you adopt. It is an awesome choice to make. You'd have a child and a need y child would have a loving family. I would not spend lots n lots of monwy going over sees and such. If I were you I'd get on the net and look up your nearest children service organization and find a child in need. A lot of agencies will pay you to adopt and to go through the adoption process.
2006-08-25 13:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of kids out there who really need loving parents! I have a girl friend and 3 cousins who have adopted kids, and when we are all together no body knows who is and who is not adopted. Don't be dead set on getting a baby,please. There are lots of kids of all ages that need forever homes.
If you do decide to try surrogacy, be careful! There are lots of scammers out there!
My girlfriend has a poem and I can not remember all of it, but it says something about......you did not grow under my heart, but in it.
and I have always thought that was so sweet.
What ever you decide good luck and god bless.
2006-08-25 13:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on just how important it is for you to have a biological child of your own. If it's that important to you, and you would much rather have one of your own, and you don't mind the possibility of losing 45k for nothing, then go ahead with it. But if you feel that you can love a child that is not your own just as much as one who is, then I would strongly suggest you go for that instead. There are tons of children out there, floating around from foster house to foster house who need a good loving enviroment. There will be challanges, yes, but in the end I think it would be all worth it.
2006-08-25 12:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is OK with adopting I would do that. The money you save could be used for other purposes like college for the child or a nice family vacation. I think as long as your both great parents it really doesn't matter who the biological parents are.
2006-08-25 12:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're better off adopting a child than saving money for something that has very little chance at success. If you really want a kid, then it won't matter if it's "yours", you'll learn to love him/her just the same and you'd be helping a child at the same time. It's a win-win situation.
2006-08-25 12:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by raymond_from_queens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ADOPT! This surrogacy thing is risky,un predictable,too expensive & just plain UnGodly!
If you can't have kids of your own,God meant for you to love one he already has for you!I wish more ppl would donate their money to help feed unwanted children & adopt more!
2006-08-25 12:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it! I know that is very difficult, but remember 2 things: 1. there is nothing more beautiful than feel you own child iside your body. 2. you will love your adopted kid very very much because you will grow him/her :)....and that is beautiful too. That is everything that I wanted to say...
2006-08-25 12:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by (^_^) CHiccaaqui(^_^) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋