im 15 in 2 weeks and i really want a baby i have been trying for 1 i dont really get on with my family but if i got pregnant they would really go mad and i dont no what to do i aint sure what they will do they sed they will break my legs but i dont no if they would be angry put me in care or hit me i am willin 2 give up ma life for a baby i dno help me please
2006-08-25 11:38:20 · 15 answers · asked by babi gal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Honey, a baby isn't going to make your life any better. I know that you may not get along with your family and you probably think that having a baby means that somebody will love you no matter what, but think about it. How fair is that to this baby? Before this baby is even born, you are giving him/her a really big responsibility don't you think? To be there for you, to love you, etc. Babies aren't suppose to be born with a job.
The other thing that concerns me is your age. You are fifteen, well not quite, but almost. In another year you are going to get your driver's license, a job, and be with your friends. You aren't going to be able to do that with a baby honey...none of it. When you want to go out on a Saturday night to a party, you can't take a baby there, nor can you drive around with a baby in the car and a bunch of your friends listening to loud music. Your teenage life as you know it will come to a screeching hault. You'll have to get a job, all your extra money will go towards diapers and formula and clothing, not to mention child care while you are in school and medical bills.
Honey, you are young. And maybe you will really love babies, which is a good thing, I've just seen so many of these cases go terribly wrong. You may be the exception, but based on the lack of support you'd be getting from your family, wait. Wait until you are out on your own, after you've lived through the rest of your teenage years and had a chance to experience what everyone else your age does. If you are that hooked on the baby thing, please try this first. Go down to your local Social Services office and speak to the manager. Where I work, we take girls, such as yourself and pair them with another young single mother for a week to help this mother out. Nine times out of ten, the girl changes her mind about becoming a young mother. What I have seen develop from this though, is that the girls usually end up staying friends and helping each other out. If you truly love babies...I suggest you try this. There are already enough babies out there who need love and care that don't have it, help one of them when you can and keep your freedom. You'll be glad you did.
2006-08-25 11:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey ma,
Listen, please don't have a baby at such a young age. You need to graduate High School and figure out what you want to do with your life before you bring another person into your world. I think what you really need is someone to talk to and someone to care about you. Someone to guide you in the right direction. Don't have a child out of spite because then you will suffer more and you will have an innocent child suffering right along with you. Where will you live, how will you eat, how will you support yourself and a child. I know it may seem like life is hard right now and no one cares but it will get better. If you can't find someone to talk to or confide in, I am here. Just email me and I will try my best to help you to help yourself. Having a baby right now will really hurt you.
2006-08-26 05:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Angel A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart give up the baby idea. No matter how bad you want a baby. if you dont get along with your family regardless if you have ababy there all your going to have. Get up every other hour with a baby. then get up and go to school. come home change clothes get ready and go to a little fastfood job. Put up with customers crap then go home just to see your child falling asleep having to hear about everything they did that day that you missed..cause your a teenage parent??? wait to your older at least 20 where you can enjoy it. where your not stressed and regret it...just enjoy being a kid because when your 20 and your daughter 5 and all your freinds are in college hanging out partying and your stuck at home? cause if you think you dont get along with your parents now just wait til you have a baby. Make sure you know what your doing...have time to grow up....
2006-08-25 19:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so your life sucks at home do you really think a baby will make it better? You will not get to do all the things your friends do, hang out have boyfriends go to prom, I would almost bet if you have a child you wont finish school. What kind of life would you be giving your child with an uneducated mother that will barely make ends meet. Tough out the crap at home you will be 18 before you know it and then you can move out. But PLEASE don't have a baby so young!
2006-08-25 18:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a smart choice....my daughters friend is 14 and has a kid. She dropped out of school. She /works all day and the kid goes 2 her moms. She got kicked out of her house and now she lives w/ her boyfriend. He is gone all the time and cares nothing 4 the child...honey when i had my first child the father got scared before i even had her and left to down state. He came back 5 yrs later to be a dad. Wait, i know i should have and maybe i would still be w/ her father right now. Wait till ur married and happy w/ someone who is willing to be there 4 u and this kid.
2006-08-25 21:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shan-Marie <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please do not get pregnant. Your life is just beginning and you have so much to look forward to. Parties, boyfriends , travel, jobs and having fun. Think carefully before you decide, you have loads of childbearing years ahead of you, don't take on something as enormous as this just now. You say you are having problems with your family, do you have anyone to talk to about this for help and support? Having a baby at the moment is no solution, you need to focus on studying hard , getting a brilliant job and money together. I wish you all the best and hope you have a great life ahead of you with a marriage and children further down the line for you.
2006-08-25 18:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by TB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY wanted a baby at 16, but I waited until I was 25, and I'm glad I did. You think times are hard now, just wait. I love my daughter to no end, but if I had her too young, I would have regretted it. I know someone who had a baby at 15 and is now looking for someone to take the child. She is 24 and has changed her mind about wanting to be a parent. Don't have a baby for someone to love, love you first! Feel free to e-mail me if you wanna talk.
2006-08-25 18:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by duckiejunkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, thats what u feel right now. But later on, when ur in labor, ull really regret it. And trust me, later on, ur going to see that its freaking heard to take care of a baby when the parents are still babies. And just because u dont really get alone with ur parents, dosent mean u should go get pregnant to try to get their attention. If u want to learn more from young mom's who experience that, go here:
www.ehealthforum.com
2006-08-25 18:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait until you can give a baby the best care possible. Some women have families who never want them to have babies, no matter how old they are, so you don't necessarily have to wait for your parents' approval, but you can't give proper care to a baby at this age. Do talk to someone in person: a counselor at school, perhaps. Good luck.
2006-08-25 18:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lea A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, you can't even take care of yourself, let alone a child. you are a child. so let's say you do get pregnant. where are you going to live? how are you going to support the baby? pay your bills? job? are you going to finish school and how? it's about time that kids learn that babies are not fashion accessories. i'. 28 and married and half the time i can;t even handle my own baby. GROW UP!
2006-08-25 18:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋