Do you think thats it's okay for a married man to look at other women ...?

Question

WHILE YOU'RE WITH HIM. I FIND IT DISRESPECTFUL. WHAT DO YA'LL THINK? THANKS FOR YOUR ANSWERS.

Answer 1

Not only normal, but healthy. That goes for YOU, also. Us women need to look, too. HOwever, there needs to be a level of respect. No, he shouldn't be looking in an obvious manner when he's with you, that WOULD BE disrespectful. And he certainly doesn't need to come home and TELL you about some gorgeous bimbo he saw earlier in the day (would HE want to hear about that stud muffin YOU saw?).

Answer 2

I'm not certain how you think this could be avoided - women make up slightly more than half the earth's population.

The real question is - why does it bother you?

If he is ogling women, that is a different story. If he has ever acted on a desire to be with another woman, again - problematic. Or if he is being obnoxious and has trouble maintaining a conversation with you while openly staring at women - then I could understand the issue.

Looking at an attractive human being as she (or he) enters and exits your frame of vision is a completely normal thing to do. We are hardwired to notice attractive people - that's where the definition of the word attractive comes from. We are "attracted" to them.

If you are afraid of your husband even looking at other women, I would say you might have issues of your own to examine. Are you insecure about yourself? Do you fear he will cheat on you? Why? What is going on in your relationship that you feel he cannot even look at another woman in your presence?

Just thoughts to ponder, but in general, I would say - as long as looking is all that is happening, it should not matter in the least.

Answer 3

Come on. For his whole life he's been looking at pretty girls and you think just because he gets married he's supposed to have blinders on?

No matter how gorgeous you are and how much he loves you, that doesn't mean all the other girls in the world become ugly. It doesn't take anything away from his love for you if someone else is also pretty.

If you saw a really gorgeous guy, and you thought he was cute, would that mean that you don't love your husband? Of course not.

Brad Pitt is hot, but so is Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom, Matt McCaugnehy, etc. Lots of men are good looking, and lots of women too. Do these men become ugly to you just because you're married? Would you not look at them if they walked by?

Stop getting offended and causing him to be defensive. You can choose to have a great marriage or you can poison it by being jealous.

Answer 4

No. For someone to look that much at women in front of you can only be a wonder what he's doing when he's not with you. Usually this is a sign he may be addicted to porn. A lot of men use the excuse that they just appreciate the beauty of women.
I call this mentally cheating. And what he is expressing in the open with his eyes reveals what's in his heart. If he's googly eyed over women everywhere you go, he may have unfaithful tendencies or has already acted on his lust.

Answer 5

First of all, it is disrespectful!
If you are with your husband he should be focused on you and you only. He married you for a reason and should not be looking (although he isn't approaching) at other women. Some people say, "Well he isn't touching so it's ok" well no it's not.
He is a married man, he chose to marry you, so he should choose to give his attention to you and look at you only.
If he wants to look at other women he needs to do it on his own time when he is with his friends rather then right in front of your face. If he is looking at them right in front of you then just imagine what he'd do behind your back!

Answer 6

Well really that's human nature as long as he don't keep starring. Looking is one thing starring is another. I am a people watcher anyway single at that so i do a lot of looking.The bad thing is when i take a women out it is hard to keep it under control.
I think that is disrespectful of me to look at others while i am with one.I do realize this and getting better at it.There's a time to look and a time not to look.

Answer 7

No. It hurts and it's being disrespectful. It's insulting, too. They can glance, but that's it! A married man should make his spouse feel she's the most beautiful woman in his life, ergo, no need to give full attention to other women.

Answer 8

That depends is he married or dead? If he stares openly or follows them and asks for a phone number then yes thats rude but are you actually trying to say that you don't see the other people that cross your line of vision throughout the day? I hope not because thats ridiculous and nobody is going to believe it. Calm down, you are definitely making a mountain out of a mole hill.

Answer 9

I totally agree with you but not only is it disrespectful, but it makes me feel awkward in a lot of different ways. I personally feel like I am being degraded, like I don't measure up to that because I am not anorexic but I am not obese, kinda like you are a better sight then my wife or something to that effect. It sometimes also makes me fell sick to my stomach. I have always told him as soon as you lose interest in me or fall out of love to just let me know I rather know then walk around looking stupid and being more hurt when I really found out.

Answer 10

Look??? Well its kind of human nature to look. I mean.. what ya gonna do pluck your eyes out?? I dont think so. I dont think anything wrong with looking. I mean.. some women almost advertise for someone to look at them with those barely there shirts, skirts, cleavage, skin tight - nothing-for-the -imagination to wonder about.. so why not? They spend tons of money to wear this stuff thats obviously too small for them.. so yea.. give them a second glance. Its obviously what they really want, is to show it all off.