2006-08-25 11:35:04 · 15 answers · asked by Sweetface♥ 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Absolutely!!! I have the same type of relationship with my boss. He is brilliant, caring, kind and willing to help out in anyway. All without sexual undertones.
2006-08-25 11:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... does your boss treat you differently than the other employees while at work? In most companies and industries, what happens outside of work regarding personal relationships isn't an issue... but if he's treating you differently at work, then you have some decisions to make.
At work, he's your boss. You report to him, he reports about you to his higherups... does he report your successes and your flaws? Does he represent you the same way he represents his other employees? He assigns projects to you and to others... does he do it evenly?
Favoritism in the work place can bite you in the A$$ even if you did nothing to encourage it. Being the bosses best friend always opens the door for the accusation that you are being treated differently... for your own sake, you need to make sure that you aren't. The accusations will be made -- make sure they can't be proven or YOUR job is on the line, not your bosses.
I've worked for friends before and it's a tightrope... we were both the butt of interoffice jokes and more than once I had to go to the trouble to proove that a good review was actually deserved because of it, as opposed to "given" to me. But because we were careful to keep the friendship outside of work, nothing permanant stuck.
Now, all that said, if you're in government or in a large company with strong "anti-fraternization" policies, then yes, being a friend of your bosses IS a problem because it means that you're both violating company policy... and while you may not like the policy, you accepted it when you accepted the job.
I guess it's a balancing act, and you have to decide if the benefits are balanced by a professional relationship at work. If the balance is uneven, one of you will suffer for it in the future -- and since he's your boss, it'll probably be you coz SH@T runs downhill, not up it.
2006-08-25 11:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your "gut" telling you? I consider a little awkward that a supervisor is mixing business with personal relationships. Assuming you are a female, you need to decide quick your goals. From the little you are saying, and assuming you are sincere in asking this question, I will consider changing departments and put some distance in this relationship if you are a career oriented individual. You will find soon enough how quickly this new "friend" will ditch you if his boss finds out of this cute relationship.
Girl, wake up before you get hurt.
2006-08-25 14:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by alrivera_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're questioning whether it's acceptable, then it probably doesn't feel acceptable to you, so it's probably not. I would think that there needs to be some kind of professional line there... Especailly between a man and a woman. I think it's fine to be friends, but not the bestest friends in the whole-wide-world, ya know?
2006-08-25 11:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as that LINE dose not get crossed its fine. Come on you 2 have to have fun at work. I am a boss and I go to make money and if i make a friend bonus.
2006-08-25 11:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by squiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends whether or not it is leading to sexual harassment. Do not GET CLOSE and be vigilant. He may be priming you to get into your confidence.and your pants.
It may also be perfectly innocent. If it is. then accept it gracefully ,and thank him, then get on with your work. decline out of work invitations unless it is business. Dont indulge in any in-house hanky panky.
He may feel.... quite innocently, that you have done a very good job and he regards you as indispensible.
2006-08-25 11:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like (s)he is coming on to you, or wants something from you (s)he feels is not reasonable to ask without buttering you up first.
What would make me nervous is that work is work, and friends are friends, and especially with the supervisor / employee situation, you can never have both without it being a bit uncomfortable.
2006-08-25 11:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Don M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but the thing is do you feel the same way, afterall how can you be so close with your boss? I mean he's your boss.
2006-08-25 11:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by cremedelacreme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-08-25 11:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Answerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no DO NOT mix the too it never work out good. i will come back and bite you some day. ( trust me in know).
2006-08-25 12:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by hate life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋