Pregnancy questions....Help!?

Question

I have a few questions...I am 7 months pregnant and I was wondering: 1.Am I suppose to choose a pediatrician before I deliver? 2.If I choose to breast feed will my breasts grow larger after the first few days of feeding? 3.Should I check out the hospital where I might be having the baby at? 4.Do you have to pay the hospital up front if you want the baby to be circumsized? 5.I am no longer with the baby's father, for reasons such as he wanted me to get an abortion...but I have a new boyfriend- and I was wondering can my baby have his last name?-but can I still receive child support from the real father? Please help, and thank you for taking your time reading this.

Answer 1

Such happy questions!

1. I would start looking into pediatricians ASAP. The hospital will want to know your preference for doctor to look at your baby in the days after birth. You don't have to choose a permanent pedi who works at your hospital, though. And, you can always switch to a new one if you don't like the first one you pick.

2. Your breasts will probably grow at first, but even more so once your milk comes in. I have some pretty obscene photos of myself when my breasts were full. Scary stuff!

3. Yes, you should go to the hospital where you expect to have your baby ASAP. Your OB/GYN should tell you which hospital that will be. You can probably take a childbirth, new parent, or a breastfeeding class through the hospital, too.

4. I don't think you usually have to pay up front for a circumcision. Are you sure it's not covered by your health insurance?

5. You can name your baby whatever you want. Be careful about giving the baby your new boyfriend's last name - what if that relationship doesn't last? Give the baby YOUR last name and you'll never have any regrets. Then, if your new boyfriend wants to adopt the child later, you can always change the baby's name. You can get support from his father no matter what you name the baby. When my son was born, I gave him my last name and didn't even put his biological father's name on the birth certificate. I had no problem getting child support.

I noticed a lot of people said you can only collect child support from the person with the same name as the baby. That's TOTALLY untrue. Naming the baby and naming the father for child support are two separate things - one is done with your town and the other is done in court. You can put his father's name on the birth certificate and name him after your boyfriend if you want (but again, why not give him your last name?). You could name him something totally unrelated if you want and still collect child support from the real father as long as you correctly identifiy him in your request for child support.

Good luck.

Answer 2

1. It is always best to choose a pediatrician before you deliver. As a due date is never an exact date, you'll want to know ahead of time who to make the well-baby appointments with. Most clinics now have flyers in each department, with doctors' pictures and their information. Some cities even have a physician referral number, where you can ask specific questions about the pediatrician, and they can help you find one that best suits your needs. Otherwise, ask around with your family & friends in your immediate area.

2. Your breasts will grow larger within the first few days of feeding, and will continue to be that size throughout the days of breastfeeding. For many women, even moreso than when they were pregnant.

3. It's always best to check out the hospital where you will be delivering. Many childbirth classes also give tours of the birthing dept. You can also call the hospital and request a tour. A good hospital would no doubt allow this. It's a good way to get yourself familiar with the rooms, and they'll be able to answer all of your questions regarding your stay. I'm pregnant with my 6th & 7th children - and I still went to my hospital, just to see what's different since the last time I was there!

4. Circumcision bill will be a separate claim sent to the insurance company, as pediatricians bill this as something like a surgical procedure. You do not have to pay any hospital bills up front. Also, this will be considered part of the birthing expenses - keep this in mind when you go to paternity court.

5. If you are not married to your new boyfriend, I would suggest not giving the child your boyfriend's name. It would probably be best to give the child your last name, and if your boyfriend wishes to adopt him in the future, it can be changed then. Even if you do get married, you can still seek child support action against the real father. The only time that you can't get child support, is when your husband adopts your child.

Answer 3

First off Congratulations on your New Bundle of Joy . And as for your ?'s about the Pediatrician it really would be a good idea to have one selected before the baby is born , so that you and the doctor can meet and talk about what you want for your baby and see if he or she will see things the way you do about how you want things to be when your baby is born . As to Breast Feeding youyr baby that is the best choice and your breast will enlarge and be painful for awhile , but its all worth it . They will enlarge a size after you breastfeed for about a year and will stay that way . Yes you should have a tour of the Hospital and see what procedures they have in place for you and your baby , just in case something should happen to either of yen's . I'm not saying anything will , but you want to make sure that the Hospital is ready for any and all situations that may come up . The one about the circumsion I really don't know you'll have to discuss that with the Hospital you choose . As for the name thing I am having problems right now with that very issue and it is in the best interest for you and the baby to give him him/her the biological fathers last name . And it sure makes it alot easier when it comes to getting Child Support . I am having issues with changing my kids last names on the Birth Certificates and also getting Child Support , because of the last names not being the fathers and the fact that they are someone elses . I wish you all the Happiness in the world for you and your baby and good luck .

Answer 4

Yes you should choose a pediatrician before you have your baby so you know who's taking care of your baby. your breast wont grow larger from breast feeding you child your breast normally grow larger when your pregnant. You should check out the hospital that your going to have your baby at so that you already have the paper work fielded out and have the information that they need. I'm not sure that you can receive child support if the baby has someone else's last name why dont you just let the baby have your last name just in case some thing happens between you and this guy.

Answer 5

1. Choose the pediatrician before so they can come to the hospital after the baby i born.
2. Yes your breast will grow larger.
3. Yes tour the hospital. They'll be happy to show you where you and the baby will be staying.
4. Your insurance should cover the circumcision. If you don't have insurance and you have a limited income, check with your state to see if they have an insurance program for pregnant women.
5.. If you want to get child support from the father you'll have a hard time if it has the boyfriends last name but if you name the baby your last name then you;ll be fine. Name him as the dad however.

Good luck!

Answer 6

1- Yes..Absolutely choose a pediatrician for your new baby. It makes it so much easier if there is any problems.

2- Your breasts will be huge when you deliver. Breastfeeding does not make your breasts bigger. If anything, it will make them smaller in the long run.

3- It is not necessary to check out the hospital. If you are nervous about the hospital, they would be more than happy for you to look around, but I never did.

4- It depends on the hospital. Do you not have insurance? If you do, the insurance should pay for the circumcision. If not, maybe you should try to get on Medicaid for pregnant women, as having a baby is CRAZY expensive.

5- I would not suggest doing this...Its obvious you have not been with this man for very long, and it is not his child. Give the baby your last name, and later in life if you and this man get married and you want the child to have his last name, he can adopt him/her. I do not think you can get child support if another man is on the birth certificate.

Good Luck with your baby and your decisions. It is hard being a new mom. Take care of yourself!!

Answer 7

Hello! I'll try to help you with your concerns. 1) yes, look for a pediatrician now, as close relatives or friends who they would recommend, or just ask your GYN who they would refer. 2) Yes, you can expect to have the "Milk come in" 2 days after delivery, the will be very swollen, and uncomfortable, as the baby feeds, and gets on a regular feeding schedule with you, it will be more comfortable. 3) You should sign up at the hospital you are going to delivery at for the start of your Lamaze classes. This includes a tour of Labor & Delivery. 4) No, you do not have to pay up front for your sons to be circumsized. 5) You will not be able to give the baby your new boyfriends last name, I'm sorry. State law requires that all newborn babies born to unwed mothers will be given the mothers last name. The father has to pay child support no matter what, the only exception's are, 1) If you dont file a claim for support, 2) You marry, and your new husband legally adopts the child, in which case the baby's father would relinquish all rights to him/her. I hope this helps hon.

Answer 8

1. You find a pediatrician you want and when you go to the hospital you let them who it is you will be using so that doctor can be there after the baby is born

2. Yes your breast will have milk shortly after delivery

3. It is up to you to take a tour of the Labor and Delivery floor at the hospital

4. Talk to the billing office at the hospital

5. No the baby cannot take your new BF's last name then he would be the one who has to pay child support and if you and him do not stay together then he has to pay till he can prove that he is not the father and then you have to pay all that money back to him. Let the real father pay child support and let your BF be a part of the baby's life if he chooses too. The baby can carry your last name or the real father's last name.

Answer 9

1. Yes, you should choose a pediatrician before you deliver. But you don't have to.

2. If you choose to breastfeed ( I recommend it) and if you don't choose to breastfeed, your breasts will become larger a few days after giving birth. If you choose to breastfeed, they will remain larger for as long as you breastfeed and sometimes even after that.

3. Yes, you should tour the hospital you are planning to give birth at if simply to know what entrance to use. You should also get an idea of their standard procedures.

4. Usually, the hospital will bill you for any services.

5. You should give your child your last name. If you put your current boyfriend down as the father, you will have trouble collecting child support from the actual father. Whether or not you put the father's name down as the father on the birth certificate, you can still give the child your last name. It's at the discretion of the person who fills out the birth certificate.

Answer 10

1. yes, you should chose a doctor for the baby before you deliver. the hospital will notify them and they usually come by the hospital to see you.
2. your breast will not grow larger, but your milk will come in a few days after delivery.
3. you should check out the labor and delivery ward of your hospital. they will give you a tour and that way you know what to expect.
4. you do not have to pay up for for anything.
5. your new boyfriend can be the father, but once you sign the birth certificate, you are responsible for that child. if he signs it and you two break up later, he is still responsible. and no, the new bf can not sign and still get child support from the father.