He hits me in the face and it hurts. He also hits others, how do I stop him from doing it?
2006-08-25 10:53:28 · 16 answers · asked by Peace 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Often it usually only takes a few firm "NO"s. Being that he's only nine months old, he must be doing this when you are holding him. The next time he hits you, grasp his hand (not hard please), and tell him no, firmly, but don't shout, and then put him down. If he tries to have you pick him back up again, go ahead and pick him up, but take his hand and gently touch your face with it saying "nice". Do that a few times. If he goes to hit you again, repeat the process until he stops. He will eventually stop, especially if he likes to be held.
2006-08-25 11:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I firmly set him down, and tell him no. and, if I time out, he gets a minute of time out per year of age as a MAXIMUM!
NEVER let your temper get out of hand, because then, he will learn that you can lose control, and he is in control! So NEVER get angry! Never show frustration!
It will get more difficult, probably. A chilod psychologist can help!
That might really be required for you to get this under control.
The hitting can also be a sign that he has mis-interpreted his hitting to be some form of attention grabbing so he feels that he is getting love and attention, in exchange for causing others some kind of pain. VERY bad lesson!
I have a neighbor 4 year old who is finlally getting the correct messages, because both parents were gone lots and he was a bit neglected. Now, he kicks the car, tries to damage stuff, and is really a handful. But, he is an angel when I watch him, because he gets the same attention as every one of the other kids, ages 5 through 11.
If he doesn't hit or slap, kick or bite. those things get him onto the chair in the middle of an empty space, and alone and away from the fun activities. He can see everyone else having fun, and he cannot be there, for 4 minutes.
Then, he is asked if he wants to join in the fun, and must answer for himself, and politely. That was months ago, and now, we have no trouble with him, as he feels respected and loved as is everyone here. Children need rules. But, there is always room for learning.
2006-08-25 18:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a child is that young words other than No (which also is an agitator) won't work. Make sad faces and pretend to cry; hit back AS SOON AS HE HITS and try to explain that he is causing the pain he just felt; time away from the everyone. If he hits, he cannot get attention.
2006-08-25 17:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Yes 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction would be to laugh when this occurs so I would recommend not laughing because it may encourage more hitting and children seek our approval in different ways at that age . Bobbing and weaving to duck the hits may also encourage more , I would just gently hold his hands for a second and not show approval and he'll stop eventually.
2006-08-25 18:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hit him back - a slap on the hand or something that will convey the message without harming him.
Or try putting him in his playpen, crib, height chair - wherever - and turning away from him so he learns that you don't want to spend time with him if he's going to hit.
2006-08-25 18:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grab his fist very firmly (but not painfully) and say in a LOUD stern voice "NO HITTING!!"..usually a few reactions like that gets the point across. You can also say "THAT HURTS!" so he learns to understand that hitting is associated with negative reactions.
2006-08-25 18:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! My son pulls my nose and it hurts SO bad. I just scream "OUCH" and tell him no, but he is 14 months now so he understands what ouch means. Your son is too young to know that what he is doing actually hurts people. He cant grasp that concept. I would just VERY firmly in a very deep voice tell him "NO" and put him down and walk away from him. Let him know that that is not ok and you will not tolorate it. I find it best not to use baby talk with babies, talk to him like he is one of your peers so that he will learn to get to know the different tones of your voice. Sounds bad, but babies and toddlers are like dogs, they can tell you are upset by the tone of your voice, so make sure you always use your upset voice when discaplining.
2006-08-25 18:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ask me anything! 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
take his hand and rub your face with it while you tell him gentle, also say that word when you are rubbing his face or hair. He will soon start to understand that word. Also he will understand if you tell him NO in a quiet but firm voice. He doesn't understand the word and yelling will frighten him but he can understand a firm tone.
2006-08-25 18:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What i did with my kids when they did that is hit them back. Not tell you to hit them hard. If he smacks you in the face then smack him back show him that it is not nice to hit people and that it does hurt.
2006-08-25 18:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica p 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take his hands and tell him no hit everytime he does it. Say we use our hands nice not to hit.
2006-08-25 19:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by rochelle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋