2006-08-25 10:48:58 · 53 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ask yourself this before you say yes..
do you see yourself spending your life with him?
living with him in close quarters? sleeping in the same bed with him every night? Never having a problem discussing anything with him?
do you see yourself with him in 5, 10, 15, 25, 50 years from now?
do you honestly want to take care of him for the rest of your life?
are you comfortable him being a father of your children, taking care of children?
real love is when you see a couple 50 years in marriage, sitting on the front porch holding hands in a swinging chair. Do you see that?
ive been thru a divorce, never want to again. Make sure you are COMPLETELY READY NO DOUBTS ANYWHERE IN SIGHT before you say yes or i do. Divorce is rough...
2006-08-25 10:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scientists state that the honeymoon stage can last for anything up to a year. In this stage you take on your partners traits and lose yourself a little. The same happens to your partner.
After that couples go through a second stage of pulling away. This is where you will try to regain the parts of yourself you lost. If this stage is handled well, then there is a third and final stage which really cements the relationship where you are both able to be yourselves completely with understand and love for each other.
Not for at least a year because this gives the endorphin levels a chance to settle and you really find out how pink those rose tinted glasses were.
P.S. It is completely normal to have doubts about any kind of committment. This is where you get to access the pros and cons of it all. If you find yourself in this stage then rest assured it's healthy.
2006-08-25 21:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know a person till you live with them!. Even then it takes a long time to get to know them properly, if ever. You have to feel comfortable in your relationship before you ever consider marriage. If you believe in love at first sight and you feel totally comfortable from the start, you should go with your instincts, and if he askes you to marry him you will know the answer right away. If you dont know the answer right away, and have to stop and consider it then you should wait. You are not ready to take that step.
2006-08-25 12:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by joan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm still waiting. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I think that 2 years is a good time to start thinking about it. That way you two have good idea on each other morals and where you stand as a couple and individually. Good luck
2006-08-25 11:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by $horti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no exact a time. Nothing comes with a guarantee. new cars come with a Guarantee, and still broke down in the assembly line. Take your' time, get to know him well! How old is he, and how old are you? I'll tell you, coming home from Vietnam, I saw a beatiful young woman, (to me). We are going on 40 years of marriage. But this does not means life is equal for everybody. Good luck!!
2006-08-25 10:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by alfonso 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main thing to consider is that you fully appreciate the Q. and its commitment you are making to one another.
Time isn't the element. It is whether you love one another sufficiently to spend the rest of your lives together as man and wife, through the good and bad times.
Do hope you make the right decision and that you will always be happy.
2006-08-25 10:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew that I was going to marry my husband after a month, However had we gotten married then I think we would have a much different relationship than we have now. It took him three years to propose and then another two before we got married.
2006-08-25 10:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by vieveia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 2 yrs is a good amount of time, providing that you are not still in your early 20's. You need to experience life somewhat, and you need to mature more when younger. I read statistics once about people who were younger than 26 had a divorce rate of over 50%. Speaking of my own experience, I would agree.
2006-08-25 11:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a wonderful question and there can be no right answer. I have a friend (Rather my first wife and I had a friend) in my flat he met my wife's cousin over dinner, he asked her to marry him before he took her home. That was in 1969 and they are still together.
I asked my first wife after a year and married six months later. we divorced after ten years.
Michael I know you will read this, all my love to Mandy.
"Daddy Dave"
2006-08-25 11:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met and married my 1st husband within six months. We lasted 4yrs. I married my 2nd husband after knowing him 3yrs. Lasted 10yrs. I don't think it matters tho. I met the love of my life and knew instantly. We were together 8yrs and I loved him exactly the same on the first day till the last. Just follow your instinct.
2006-08-25 11:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋