paranoid just tired of being lied to we have a 2 year old and I want her to have a happy home not one where her daddy is watching porn while he supposed to be watching her while I'm at work. He is the one hiding something. He knows my password I have nothing to hide. He just can't be honest to save his own life. I told him the last time that if I caught him with porn again that he was out so I think thats why he convientally forgot his password.
2006-08-25 10:33:26 · 14 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't sound very good, and if you think he is watching porn instead of his daughter, I think I would hire a babysitter to stay with her and if she is a friend she may even be able to tell you what the hubby is up to. Hope you can work it out.
2006-08-25 10:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that you are being paranoid...you have had trust issues in the past and he knows the only way you can get over them is to be completely honest, which he's not!! You know that there are many people on this site that think it's funny to mess around with people who are only looking for advice. If I were you I would not tolerate any bulls**t from him. I have also been wronged in the past and I finally left and even though it was hard it was the best thing that I could have done. Peace of mind is priceless. The best of luck to you.
2006-08-25 10:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by oneontaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read both of your questions and have some simple advice. Get rid of the computer altogether. No computer no internet secrets.
I think that by dwelling on the issue, you are inadvertantly driving the wedge into your relationship more than you realize. He isn't innocen either, but you can stop the problem by getting rid of it.
Watch his behavior after that and you will see is he is addicted to the net as well as porn by the way he acts.
You can also go to tueagles.com and download their shareware version of the anti-porn program that they have. Convienantly forget the password and watch his reactions.
2006-08-25 11:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he lies, he watches porn and he has a history of lieing? And you leave your daughter with this man? You honestly think you can make a happy home with someone who lies to you and has so little respect for you?
Also, what if he's a pedophile? If he knows you know he's watching porn then why won't he let you see? How bad is it? Have there been any behavioral changes in your daughter? Is she suddenly withdrawn? Sullen? Was she once a bright outgoing child who has become silent and distant?
I don't know your situation and I don't know him but I would be very careful with my daughter if it were me.
2006-08-25 11:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry so many cold hearted people answered your last question. I understand and you are paranoid ...but it's okay...he broke your trust.I think the porn is more important than you and in that case why would you want to stay with someone who thinks porn is more important than "real" you.! It's hard to just stop caring or stop loving but you have to make yourself think with your brain and not heart or emotion. Good luck, I don't think people realize how the porn industry has had such a terrible effect on society. It should be stopped, but so should drugs and murder. This world we live in is just so damn f*cked up. Good luck.
2006-08-25 11:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get netnanny. You can have it record all of there keystokes and look at it later. It also can be hidden so they don't know its on the computer. It also will let you block all porn sites. When they try to go to one it will lock up the computer. They have to ask what happened to the computer and you will know for sure. It works.
Then if you have the limits that you will not stand for your husband to look at porn on the computer then you need to tell him you will leave if you catch him doing it again and be willing to follow thru with your convictions.( only if that's your convictions)
Good Luck
2006-08-25 11:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound petty but I seriously wouldnt be with him unless right then and there he gave me his password. If he honestly forgot it he can have it emailed to him. Every site has that login and forgot your password crap. and i dont blame you what is wrong with a man that is supposed to be watching his child and instead is watching porn.
2006-08-25 11:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by fawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have issue with the fact that he may be watching porn around the 2 yr old but not because HE watches it. I can't beleive you would break up a happy home over porn. When the child grows up and realizes DAd was not around because Mommy divorced him because he watched porn, she will be furious with you.
2006-08-25 10:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's okay for your hubby to watch porn, maybe you should join him, it will help your sexual relationship. You might even learn some new things that will turn him on. You should be worried about what time in the day he;s watching for your childs sake.
2006-08-25 10:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-25 10:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋