me and my fiance been together for 11 months. now in this 11 months we lost a baby at 6 months and it broke both of us being that was his first and my 4th'. i was hurt before i met him by my ex husband of 7 years he cheated on me. and when i met my fiance the one i'm with now i was accusing him of all the things my ex done to me. and he was accusing me of cheating and i was stressed out so we lost the baby. now i'm gonna be 2 months pregnant and it seems as if things are still rocky . the other night we got into a big fight all he wanted to do was leave he was saying he give me more of his time than his friends and family and it's not right he said. he said he loves me to death and wants me to have all his kids but i have a anger problem i said he's right i do but when he left my house he didn't call me what should i think is he with someone else or do he really love me like he said he does we just need some cooling time apart to see where we are . should i worry he's cheating on me?
2006-08-25 10:18:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm really close to his sisters and she said my bother is not like that he tells everyone he loves me. and we suppose to get married next year. he told his sister he's mad at me i said some bad things the other night when we had that fight that i can't take back i know i hurt him is it what he's doing or am i being paranoid about my past relationship.
2006-08-25 10:22:15 · update #1
no you two are not right for one another! do not go forward it will not work, when you really find true love it comes without rules,dont hurt your self over and over, and do not hurt the child!
2006-08-25 10:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The success of both marriage and any close relationship is based on trust, which I feel from your description, that neither of you have at the moment. You shouldn't judge your fiance by what your ex did as far as cheating is concerned. It doesn't sound to me like your fiance is the cheating type. However, you don't seem to trust him. On the other hand, he doesn't trust you entirely either. So if this relationship or prospective marriage is going to succeed, you're both going to have to quit accusing each other. There's more at stake than just the two of you, since you indicate you're pregnant, and you've already lost a child due to stress. Perhaps counseling might be in order, since you can't seem to solve your own problems. A counselor might be able to get you to see things from a different perspective. I wish both of you the best of luck, as I feel there is potential there for happiness. But first you need to get some professional help.
2006-08-25 17:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think he's cheating? That was your ex this isn't clam down relax and think of the baby that you are carrying. Do you want the same thing to happen again. I know it's very hard to trust when you have been hurt and stepped on. Do realize that it's not the same person who done it. Give the new person a chance. Good Luck. Do think and Calm down for baby.
2006-08-25 17:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your driving yourself crazy basing this relationship on what happened to you in a past relationship. Put the past behind you and give your new guy a chance. Learn to trust him. He not only has you in his life but he also has friends and family that are a part of his life just as you do. Take an anger management course to help you with your temper.
2006-08-25 17:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stressed out and angry and pregnant-- that's a terrible combination. Right now what you need to do is get some counseling, calm yourself down, and take good care of this baby. Another miscarriage would only make things much, much worse.
2006-08-25 17:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by LingXinYi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the sister. She knows him quite well. If he is telling them he loves you when you are not around, then it is safe to say he does. He sounds lik he could be a good guy. Be careful about accusing him of things that an ex did, you may end up regretting it.
2006-08-25 17:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by justmefromin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, the first thing you need to do is take care of yourself and the baby! you don't want to be going through another miscarriage! i think both of you need to work things out w/a counselor especially since ya'll are engaged. Think of it as a pre-wedding counseling. But again, focus on you and your baby growing inside of you. You're kids need a mom who is stable. Best of luck to you all!
2006-08-25 17:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better reach for counselling... Take course on anger management. Keep positive attitude, stop fault findigs...forget ill of your past look forward to a happy future....congrat's
2006-08-27 12:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by johari_mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋