do you belive that you?

Question

fall in love

or

choose to be in love

?

explain yourself.

i'm loving this. good answers you guys!

Answer 1

I think it's a little bit of both. I believe love sneaks up on you when you least expect it to, so therefore we fall in love, but I also believe that you choose to let that love inside, to feel it and revel in it, to actually "be" in it.

Answer 2

Both in a way but I'm leaning more towards choose. Once you let your heart go to someone then you fall in love. I never wanted to fall in love before so the past 3 boyfriends I just liked while they were falling in love,they were nice to have around but then on the 4th boyfriend I decided I wanted to fall in love and I did.

Answer 3

Fall

Answer 4

I believe it's a little of both. In fact I'm certain it's both. You fall in love with someone whom you choose to be acceptable.

Then once you've fallen in love you have another choice to make. That choice is TO love them. That decision is what gets a couple through the rough times in a relationship. The choice to love that person, the decision that you will love them.

Answer 5

Both....
You fall in love once with someone....
after that staying in love is a choice and requires some work. Some people say they "fall in love all over again" with their spouse or significant other, so maybe if you really put in the effort then that's the benefit you reap. Maybe I'll find that out someday.

Answer 6

I choose the man I'm attracted to then I fall in love.

Answer 7

I never believed in first love at first site untill i met my boyfriend i have now. i am 30 and i have been through some messed up relationships. and the last thing on my mind was love. i have two girls too. but i am in love and i did fall in love. but yes you can choose it too. but there is a difference. in love means you think of only that person. choosing it is that you think of having other relations.

Answer 8

Honey, I never got to choose, I fell in love with my husband and fought it the whole way!!! My grandmother used to tell my uncles to never date a woman they weren't willing to marry. They thought she meant that way she would have no surprise grand babies, but just before she died last year she told them the truth. You can't choose who you fall in love with, so she wanted to make sure they had a chance to marry someone that they liked and trusted and respected giving them a good shot at a happy union. I never understood truly until I met my husband. He made less than $200/week at a slaughterhouse where he did the killing. Who wants to marry a guy that does that, and has no table manners and no sense of romance? But one night after we had been going out for around 7 months, I was out jogging and I couldn't get him out of my head, and I tripped and fell when I realized that I was in love with him. I wish I didn't because he has a girlfriend now, and I am divorcing him, but I still love him.

Answer 9

fall in love...I think you do choose a person initially to get to know, but as you get to know them, I think you have the ability to fall in love with things about them that you adore. I don't think you can choose someone, for instance "good-looking" and decide that you are going to be in love with that person. (Although, I suppose you could try!)

Answer 10

Such a good question. I want to believe the former, but as reality and experience sinks in, the latter seems like the answer. Even if you do fall in love, eventually conscious choices have to be made to make it last.