Is it okay to tell my mother that my wife is pregnant infront of the entire family?

Question

My wife isn't pregnant yet, but we are trying soon.

When she does get pregnant, we plan to tell my family after 3-4 months.

Some people told me that a first time grandmother should be told all by herself and not with other people.

What do you think?

I wanted to tell my mother by giving her a card to open in front of everyone.

My entire family gathers once a month and I thought it would be special for everyone to celebrate the news together.

Answer 1

Tell her first. It won't be as "special" for her if you tell her as part of the whole family.

You also never know how someone is going to react.

Answer 2

There is no set standard to announce that your family is expecting. I have never heard of telling the first time grandmother by herself.......I think you should go for it (when the special moment happens) and do an announcement in a fun and special way that the entire family can share in. There are so many ideas on the websites now that are fun and clever. Good Luck on your journey of trying to conceive. May you have a blessed conception, birth, and delivery. Build wonderful memories and don't miss a minute of their life! GOOD LUCK

Answer 3

Technically, by letting her read it in a card while everyone is present, she is still finding out first. I think that by doing it this way is great, and she can share in the joy of letting the rest of your family know as well. When the time comes, I say do it how you feel is most appropriate (besides there is no saying that you will be able to wait that long to tell people once you find out yourselves, it is such exciting news that you may want to celebrate right away!) Your family sounds like they are a tight knit group and I am sure that they would all love to share in your joy, I don't think that it will really matter about the hows and whens when it comes down to it. Best of luck to you and your wife.

Answer 4

I think it is a great idea! As long as your Mom is wanting to be a Grandma? I had a cousin who gave our Grandma a card in front of the whole family at Thanksgiving letting her know that she was a Great Grandma for the first time and the whole room was in tears. It was a joyous moment everyone would remember. As far as tradition goes, I can't qoute you anything, but if my hubby and I were not both from divorced families we would have done things that way too. Hope that helps!

Answer 5

I think your idea is a good one. But, you need to think about your mother's personality, and how she handles surprises.

My mother cannot stand it if she is not the first to know something in the family. So, I would tell my parents together, then ask if she would like to announce it at the gathering.

Answer 6

I would tell her first. It is a special moment and you will ruin it by telling her with the other less important family members.
It would be best to pull her aside and tell her and maybe let her announce it to the rest of the family.
She will be disappointed and possible hurt that she was not told before the others.

Answer 7

We told my mom by herself. I think it is best to tell her first, then the rest of your family. It makes her feel special.

Answer 8

I think that would be a great surprise. To hand her a card and let her open it in front of everyone. Make sure you have a video camera to catch her reaction when she catches on. That would be priceless and something that you could show your child later on in life!! If that were me, I would love it!

Answer 9

as long as your wife knows that you are doing it. The card is a good way to go, she'll still have a bit of advanced warning.

Answer 10

I wouldn't tell her in front of your entire family. Sit her down and tell her first, then announce it to the rest of your family.