this weekend when my boyfriend and I meet up with his Ex wife to exchange his son? I have never seen her before and she is psycho mentally, what should I do if she starts yelling at me or causing drama? I hate drama!
2006-08-25 10:12:41 · 21 answers · asked by Free & Sassy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
he has to drive 3 hours and doesnt want to do it alone!
2006-08-25 10:24:38 · update #1
I agree with a couple of the other posts: DON'T GO... Even if you were married I would give the same advice.
Let the two of them deal with any issues that may come up during the exchange. One of the biggest mistakes anyone can make is to interfere with matters involving their 'significant other' and their offspring,...
...and if the ex- is 'psycho', then she will consider just your mere presence as interference.
The fact that you 'hate drama' is all the more reason for you not to go, so remove yourself from the equation altogether. The kid doesn't need the added buIIshit, and what happens between the three of them is none of your business anyway. Right?
EDIT: He doesn't want to go alone, eh? I find it quite sad that he, as a father, hasn't yet come to the realization that sometimes in life we have to put our own wants aside and do what is best for our kids, --- like him driving solo for few hours to reduce the chances of adding undue stress to his son's life.
Maybe YOU should be the voice of wisdom here and tell him that the extended trip back would give them some time alone together; it's called "bonding", and it's something that parents should do often with their children.
In short, it's time for your boyfriend to GROW UP...
2006-08-25 10:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Saint Christopher Walken 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you have never seen her, how do you know she is psycho. I guess only from what your boyfriend is telling you. It is weird that ex-wifes are always called psycho or mentally ill by the new girlfriends.
Drive with your boyfriend to pick up his son but stay in the car. Be smart!!!!
2006-08-25 17:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Angel****1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she seriously have a mental condition? Or does she just act like a raging psycho? In any case, I would try to be a bit sensitive about what she may be going through. Imagine what it would be like to give up YOUR child. Not easy. And even if she is a *****, be the bigger person and act cordial and sympathetic. It won't be any easy confrontation, but the calmer the situation is, the easier it will be for everyone.
2006-08-25 17:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by court 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Have you been with your boyfriend for any length of time or is this a new relationship? If it's a new relationship, perhaps you should not go and just wait for him to return with his son. If you do decide to go, then just smile, be polite, and if she starts yelling, say "I think I'll just wait outside." The only reason she would behave that way is to get a reaction out of you and your boyfriend, and if the two of you refuse to react to it, then she'll be doubly mad because she failed in her mission!
2006-08-25 17:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by americanwoman22309 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you do go, you should probably stay in the car. You dont say how long youve been in a relationship with this man or how serious. If it is fairly new, then you probably shouldnt even go. Also, most men refer to their exwives as "psycho" so dont base your opinion on what your boyfriend tells you. Save your conclusion until youve actually met her.
2006-08-25 17:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I highly recommend you don't date someone with a child in the first place since you're only going to cause that child to feel the need to compete with you for daddy's attention, but since you are... you need to have your boyfriend deal with it since he knows what to expect from her more than you do (plus it will demonstrate if he's ready to stand up for you against the ex).
2006-08-25 17:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be as polite as possible and get the exchange over with as quickly as possible. DO NOT fight in front of the kids.
2006-08-25 17:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by spunk113 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend should be picking up his son without you...it's unhealthy for that child to meet "new Moms" on a regular basis and it's darn right child abuse to subject him to such "drama"...do the right thing and stay home.
2006-08-25 17:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by curious115 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you must go the stay in the car. Also consider that your only info about this woman is coming from her ex.
2006-08-25 17:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by amglo1 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't go.
You will never erase her face from your mind and she won't either. Stay at home and wait for you BF to bring the kid home or meet them somewhere.
Believe me, it's the best thing to do.
2006-08-25 17:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Nefertiti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋