Women's Lib?

Question

Do you think that women's lib has ruined the chances that our children have grown up in less happy and secure homes?

let me be more clear: do you think that our children are growing up in less secure and happy homes due to women's lib?

Answer 1

Seriously? No knock on things like women's suffrage but I think it played a major role. Think about it: Once given the free will opportunity to take charge (nothing wrong in that), many took an abusive permission from it. By that I mean, it became the excuse to make mistakes instead of thoroughly thinking about the situation. Want an example? Take divorce laws. Prior to the 1970’s sweeping reform, if a couple wanted a divorce, they were forced into counseling to work out the problems. It was during those sessions that it was determined whether the marriage should end or not. Usually, the cause for divorce was pretty obvious and protective of women. Divorces were granted in cases of any kind of abuse, failure to consummate the marriage, marriages between relatives, etc. Women didn’t have to prove it. The courts determined it through evidence. The man also was at the will of the courts. Today, women can just claim “irreconcilable differences”, a newly coined term in the history of law. This meant that if a woman (or man) just wanted to get out of the relationship because the spouse didn’t know how to load the dishwasher, she/he can. What leads me to believe there’s a correlation? The increase number of women in the workforce also corresponds with the number of women filing for divorces and the number of men staying at home along with the number of court cases where the man gets custody of the children, despite the classic view of a woman being a nurturing parent. Gender bender. Sad truth but all came about the same time frame. Coincidence? I don’t think so.

Answer 2

Whoa...that's a loaded question with many answers.
Growing up (female) I was all for WL...all the way. I felt that women were just as tough and strong and could do anything men could do.
I was a complete tomboy, even asked the football coach if I could come out for high school football.
I even joined the Marine Corps, it was the "manly" thing to do.
But as time went on and I grew up, settled down, became a mother, my views began to change.
I agree that both sexes should receive fair treatment. If one can do the job just as well as the other, so be it. But there are inherent, biological, physical, emotional, and physiological differences that cannot be changed, differences that are part of our gender make up.
Women, for the most part, are not as big nor physically strong as men. I'm a volunteer fire fighter and the smallest one in the county and I have let it be known that "I CANNOT DO MANY THINGS THAT THE MEN CAN" because I lack the physical strength. It doesn't make me any less important.
But us women have the advantage when it comes to communication and nurturing. Many victims/patients that I come across would much rather see a woman than a man. The children would much rather see women than men.
But to say that WL has ruined the family values....I'm not so sure about that. Where would all of us be (our mother's included) if it hadn't been the advent of WL? So many of our mother's would be stuck in unhappy marriages, sitting at home watching soap operas. And the generation would continue and I would be sitting at home watching soaps in an UNHAPPY and UNFULFILLED marriage.
But I'm not. I'm out in the world, doing my thing.
WL has done some damage, no doubt, but it's also done some great things, too. It's unfortunate that it's gone overboard in some regards.

Answer 3

In any case those responsible would be men because of their refusal (for the most part, with few notable exceptions) to do their share of the child rearing and housekeeping.

You have the 50's movie version of what life was like before women's lib. Who told you that everything used to be so happy go lucky? Women were cast into a single role and whoever didn't fit the perfect housekeeper stay at home mom type was terribly unhappy and depressed.

How happy and healthy could the children raised by such a mother and a mostly authoritative father could have been?

Before women's lib home was the extent of women's universe and the world belonged to men. Today, thanks to women's lib both men and/or women can choose to be at home, or to work outside the home. We need to perfect the system, not to shoot it down.

Just FYI, I am a stay at home mom by choice. I chose to stay home with my babies, but my choice was not determined by sex nor gender.

Answer 4

Yes I do agree. Children need their mother to be there for them to teach them responsibility, and to love them the way no one else will. All these 2 worker families are costing our society alot in the long run because we get angry adults who don't know how to be adults or parents and the pattern is repeated. We need to invest in our children's lives and be there for them. Now because both parents work people have more money and things cost more money and it's not as much of an option to stay home. Darn inflation. I hope I can stay home with my children when the time comes, but it will definitely require some big sacrifices on my part.

Answer 5

First of , it's not called women's lib, it's called Feminism. And no I don't think it's ruined children's lives. What has ruined children's lives are men who don't pay women as much as men when they work and most women do work outside the house nowadays. What has ruined kids today is the extremist views with questions like this saying something ruined kids lives. Bad parenting and immature adult choices ruin kids lives, not feminism. Not being able to see all sides of an issue ruins kids lives, instead of just a fundamaentalist, narrow little right wing world that doesn't prepare them for much. That's what ruins kids lives.

Answer 6

I tend to think that women who are aware regarding women's issues are also more aware regarding relationships. The days of the stay at home subservient women are long gone. It is much easier to deal with a wife who is understanding of modern roles than one who is steeped in traditional ones. I applaud that my wife was active in the women's movement in the 70's and has become very professional in her carrier. That allowed us to raise two sons in a household where education , work ethic and discussion ruled the day. Now that the boys are at school its also nice to have someone to discuss the issues of the day with instead of house and home things.
In our circle I find that most stable and long lasting marriages are the couples with feminist women. The biggest part of that though is the understanding that they are individuals who chose to be with us and not some sort of chattel.
Do not forget that that the books and people who promote traditional roles for women are male dominated who like the little women at home to say yes all the time. How boring. The divorce rate amongst that group is as high as the rest. If not higher.
Just remember that the clown how started with the feminazi crap is on plaintiff
number 3.

Answer 7

No, women have the choice to stay home or work... (well maybe some dont because of financial difficulties, but that has nothing to do with the women's lib movement)

If you choose a career over your child thats your own fault.

If you choose a career and be mom thats different.

You can have a career and still be a good mom... I know I have done it!!!!

Answer 8

There is no doubt that the women's movement created tension in the homes. There is also no doubt that our children are often being raised by two parents who are working which means we often have strangers raising our kids. I would say that the benefits of "women's lib" outweigh the downsides. That being said...I have had to realize in my own home that for us to be a happy family that means I have to honor my husband. He needs to honor me as well. This can be a tug-of-war in a family where both parents want to be in charge. I am trying to trust my husband more and defer to him on more matters. This has not been easy for me but it creates a more peaceful environment at home for my son.

I think we need to realize that our families have paid a price for us women demanding our rights and independence. Knowing that, we need to ensure that our families remain intact. We need to create homes that are safe havens where all our family members feel loved and appreciated.

Answer 9

Broken families and marital problems have existed since there marriage was invented. It's only just now in this day and age that we're more open to admitting and discussing it. It's only in this day and age that it's okay for a woman to leave her abusive or neglectful husband, for example. She's also got more choices now than she did back then.

Answer 10

that among other things of this day and age. the kids now days get more stuff and are more spoiled. ( when I was a kid I used ta have ta walk 20 miles in the snow, barefooted, up hill to school 7 days a week.)