my wife and i have only been divorced 6 mos we were togther 5 years and we have a son i love my ex- but i love my gf also do u think it is possible i want my ex- wife back
2006-08-25 09:24:31 · 10 answers · asked by Aaron l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i left my husband after 18 years, its been almost 10 months since i've been gone. after i left, he slept with every female that ever visited our house, and would still beg me to come back - yeah right - i've talked to several of them, and all they say is "all he ever does is talk about you." i think that breaking up is hard on both - no matter who initiated the situation. I think that what you would like, is to have the "family" together again and just be "normal." I know that even tho i am with someone now, i tend to think back and wish i could have back my house, husband and family, and job, and everything be normal - especially when my new bo and i argue - sometimes i wonder if it was all worth it. but i left for a reason. you may love the gf, but are you "in love" with her - i think like the rest - she's a rebound, someone to fill the void, and eventually she'll get hurt. unfortunately - the first 5 of my ex's g/f's have gotten hurt - he has finally listened to my advice - and decided to concentrate on fixing the reason's i left before going on to someone else - if he really listens, i think the next girl will get a really special guy.
2006-08-25 10:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by sherrie k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have made the same mistake that so many other divorced people have made and that is rushing head first into new relationships; it is very important that you have worked through your problems before moving on.
There is a good chance that you do want your ex back, but your emotions are so unstable now; it's best to give yourself time before making any serious decisions about relationships, even if it involves reconciliation with your ex.
2006-08-25 11:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 6 months. I don't think you were ready to move on with someone else yet. What you need is time alone to figure out what you really want. You're not being fair to your current gf if you're still wanting to be with your ex.
2006-08-25 09:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should read my last question, and think about what's best for her, even if that means it's not you! She deserves to be happy, and if she has to keep wondering if you are going to visit the gf, then she won't be! Don't be selfish, don't go back until you are sure you will stay, This is not good for either of them ( your ex and son, not the ho!) if you keep bouncing back and forth. Be sure, and then make every effort, even if it is difficult!
2006-08-25 09:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only been 6 mos ,and u were togther along time, so it is possible u do, but u should wait and think things through, like is ur ex w/somone else are they happy, u could just ask how she's feeling, why did the divorce happen in the first place just ask ur self if it's really the ex u miss are just certian aspects i went through the same thing in my case i just missed certian aspects of him, not the person himself good luck
2006-08-26 04:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by rachel m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to think back to what made the relationship fail?
was one of you guys cheating on the other. things like this can be very hard to forgive and to forget, even when you are with the person you love and know that they cheated on you, you start thinking if he or she is comparing you to that other, is she or he better than me, it can create a lot of problems.
anyways in conclusion it is normal that you miss her, because you created a comfort zone with her, which can take some time to win back with a different person.
good Luck!
2006-08-25 09:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not state why you are divorced. Love is NOT enough for a relationship to with stand life. Respect, friendship, trust, honesty, kindness, thoughtfullness,compatability,desire, are all what you need to think about to determine if you want to continue on with the ex.
2006-08-25 09:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by cindy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are having a hard time letting go. Men don't like changes and you want things the way they once were. Move on and enjoy your life.
2006-08-25 09:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might not be ready to have a new girlfriend. Don't get serious to fast. You need time to heal and get past your marriage. The new girlfriend sounds like a rebound.
2006-08-25 09:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u rushed in the relationship! ... sometimes you need time to move on from one person and yeah it does take long than 6 months! and if u really want her back then .. starting texting her ... meet her more and ... sorry to say this ..but start weighing up the both relationships ! and then make a decsion !
2006-08-25 09:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by sandras 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋